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writes:In May, I asked the following question on this sitehttp://www.dearcupid.org/question/hes-sweet-and-lovely-and-caring-and-cheating.html.After people's advice the man I asked the question about dumped his girlfriend...was a real suprise to me aswell.Things were good at first, always constantly reassuring me that I was the only one he was taking out and texting. Now it seems like the honeymoon period is over he doesn't call as much as he used and hardly ever asks about my feelings, which he used to do quite alot, this sort of behaviour has been going on about a week and a half.He doesn't seem as interested in me but he's giving me alot of mixed signals like he still is nice to me but not as nice as he used to be. I'm not good with change and this is really doing my head in.I didn't see him all last week, when he had a girlfriend I saw him twice a week but now its gone down to once a week. I saw him Saturday night and my friends and his friends ended up together he was fine with me kissing me and that. I don't know whether to follow my intuition because it's usually always right. I asked him last week was we together and he said no and didn't offer an explanation, I'm now wondering if this scared him off abit.I really am confused and I would rather get out of this now before I fall proper bad for him but it's killing me not knowing what has changed I haven't asked him.I also asked him today could we go out sometime during the week because I didn't see him all last week and he replied I will do if I aint busy. Got 2 football matches this week. This confuses me as he is usually sad when he can't see me.Any ideas on what I can do? I don't want to push him away. I just want the man I had before. It's mad but I was actually happier when he had a girlfriend.Any help will be appreciated!.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (13 July 2009):
 your saying u dont want to lose him, but if u think he's seeing another woman, surely u lost him already?
do u really want to be in a relationship like this? where he come's and goes as he pleases? and txts when he pleases?
i think u should reconsider being with him, else he will just continue 2 play games with u.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks.Is there any more that can offer advice, I'm proper stuck I don't want to lose him.
I text him saying-
You used ring n txt me a hell of alot n dnt seem as intrested as much.miss how it used be
n im soz 4 askin if we were gether i dont know why i asked that.i like how we are just dont want it messing up.
I'm now regretting this as he hasn't txt back :(.
Honeypie I know it isn't number 2, he wanted to get out of the relationship away, I think I was just a push that made him do it.
It could be number 4.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2009): well that is what you get for moving on to someone elses man. you messed with him when he was already taken, well now you got him. but it is not going your way. not a good feeling. in life we must be careful what we wish for, it might just come true. life is a bitch isn't it? your wheel just turned............
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (13 July 2009):
 First of all, my advice would be to STOP dating guys who are obviously "taken" already. It will only end in drama and mistrust.
1. He dumped his girlfriend for you, yet he says the two of you aren't together, so either he is seeing you as a FWB ( friend with benefits) or he isn't totally serious about you.
2. He is regretting dumping his GF and is "blaming" you for it.
3. Communication. The two of you need to talk. If he doesn't ASK how you feel there are no rules saying you can not bring up HOW you feel.
4. Maybe he is seeing another girl as well?
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reader, Starlights +, writes (13 July 2009):
u really need to ask him where u stand with him.
communication is key here.
u wont know unless u explain to him that u need to see him more than once a week, if he doesnt respect ur feelings or doesnt make an effort to reach a compromise, seriously ditch him.
he isnt worth the effort.
good luck!
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