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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for around 2 months now. When we where friends he didn't want to rush into any thing like sex, he just wanted to take things slow and at a time, he didn't seem like all the other boyfriends that I've been out with, that's one of the small reasions I said yes to him when he asked me out but now that we are going out and we have got to know each other better he seems to be pushing the sex thing on me, I've told him I don't want to rush into anything as I've been treated bad before, he said he loves me and that he don't want to make me feel like he's rushing me but he is still doing it whenever we see each other, or over text or the internet. How do I tell him to back off without hurting his feelings? He knows I've been badly treated about this sort of thing before and he's still trying to push. Please help. xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2009): Well when it all comes down too it and you still want to be with him, you need to tell him face up "this isn't working stop throwing it up in my face I DONT WANT SEX RIGHT NOW" and maybe he will think twice if that doesnt work homegirl I say kick him to the curve because hey, thats his loose not yours. And Im happy people other than me thinks relationships can be basiced on more than just sex.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (27 January 2009):
Is he actually asking for it or trying it on for actual sex?
Or is he just flirting and kissing you and being sexually affectionate?
Just because a guy gets a bit heavily into feeling you up when kissing doesn't mean he's after sex. You may be thinking he's pushing when really he's just doing small things that he doesn't consider mean actual Full Sex. It would be very understandable to think that he's after sex every time he squeezes your bum if you've had rubbish ex boyfriends. Some guys only give affection when they are after the full whack.
Decent guys will give you little bits of affection here and there because they find you sexy and love just putting their hands on places they shouldn't.
If you think he really is pushing you though then just stop him, say "don't" and give him a slightly upset look. He should melt and give you cuddles instead after that.
Good Luck!! xx
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