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writes:OK so I have been out of the dating scene for quite some time. I met a guy and we hit it off immediately... we text and chat to each other constantly... he rings me at least once a day which I really enjoy his phone calls. we have spent a few weekends together and whilst we Haven't had sex we have shared the same bed and kissed and cuddled only.however, pretty much right at the start we talked about being friends only... but I cannot help but feel some kind of electricity between us. he grabs my hand unexpectedly and hugs me, gives me a kiss randomly, tells me he loves me... but yet he calls me friend. I'm so confused!i know I should ask but I don't want to ruin the friendship as I do really value him as friend as we have shared details about each other that I know we wouldn't just tell anyone! oh dear, am I out of my league here?p.s I just asked him a question as to when he eventually found the girl of his dreams would he just forget about me...he replied no, we are forever friends...guess that answers my question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone........... you have hit the nail on the head. i dont actually want to have a relationship with this guy and whilst he tell me that he loves me and calls me cute name, i dont say it back...... the sharing the bed thing has to stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2011): This is problem. You two aren't on the same page. In his eyes you're a cuddle buddy and that's the extent of it but in your eyes you're hoping it materializes into relationship. Don't count on it. That's not the purpose or outcome. Remove yourself. It's against you. I have two cuddle buddies and it works because there's an understanding and respect of not going into sexual territories or crossing emotional boundaries. You've crossed the emotional boundary. You're treading dangerous water to being hurt. Pull back now. It's not for you. You're an endeared friend. Girlfriend? No way. Don't ruin the friendship. Stop.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2011): You are just friends....forever apparently. Stop cuddling with him if it confuses you. Men don't usually turn down a warm body..a pulse is usually the requirement! Women need attraction plus personality to be physical with a man.
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