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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hi everyone so recently I got into an argument with my boyfriend. The main thing is that he keeps on thinking that I'm flirting with guys when I'm actually not. If I wanted to flirt around I wouldnt have chosen to date him cuz its plain wrong and disloyal. However, my boyfriend, he's super hard to read and he doesn't like to share how he feels when something is bothering him. I also feel like his trusting issues came from his family background. There have been trust issues in his family so i do not entirely blame him for being a little insecure. Fact is, he is not being cooperative with our situation right now. Anyways, I tried talking to him and hes just going like "I don't know how to talk to you anymore" and like I texted him today (we're on winter break so theres no other way to communicate) and I asked him if he wants us to end then just say the word and I'll leave. But his response is seems uncertain. Like he's on the fence. He said it's my call whether I wanna leave or not. And I told him I'm hesitating at the moment. So he said tell him when I've made up my mind. So right now, I ain't sure if its worth me staying. Cuz he might just continue to treat me with a pissy mood. However, it seems like he doesn't want to be responsible for my sadness (which is so egocentric). I know he loves me I mean I can feel it. But right now, I'm not exactly sure. Its almost a year now and we've put a lot of effort into our relationship and we made it through the worst times. I don't really want us to end tbh cuz I actually care about him dearly and I think he could possibly be my first true love. (Cliche i know but thats how it felt) So I need some help on this on how to respond and talk to him and like make him see clearly that he doesn't need to be insecure about this and like make him realise that I do love him very much. Btw, I've told him this so many times... and like I do not flirt with guys with all honesty.. they literally talk to me like a normal convo like about homework and stuff. But seriously, he gets pretty mad about it. SO PLS HELP! the thing is I dont want us to end... that all really. sorry for blabbing :P
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (16 December 2014):
Your boyfriend sounds paranoid. I went out with a guy like this once. You can try reasoning with them but it just doesn't work. In fact sometimes it even seems to make things worse. They'll always accuse you of flirting or cheating. Hell, in the end I only had to look in the general direction of another guy to be accused of flirting because I looked away too quickly or blinked or someting stupid like that.
I strongly advise you to end the relationship. It only gets worse and you're far to young to have to put up with that sort of shit. You'll miss him for a while but that will pass.
Take care
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (16 December 2014):
 If you're both so unsure about your relationship, maybe it's best you called it a day.
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