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writes:Dear Cupid, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of two and a half years, he keeps messaging me and saying he wants me back and i should give him another chance but i don't want to, I do love him but i was just so unhappy and things just weren't going right i tried to tell him that i can't keep coming back but he keeps threatening me that he wants to kill himself. please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): He sounds like a nutter! I think he's trying to black mail you into taking him back. He's probably hurting and will do and say anything to have you in is life. I don’t think he will kill himself. I think you have done the right thing, just tell him that you don’t want to be with him anymore and he needs help if he's thinking of killing himself.
If you know someone in his family tell them what’s going on and that he’s threatened to kill himself. Then you can fully move on.
Take Care x
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reader, Cariola  +, writes (16 March 2007):
ive been in this situation myself and to be honest with you if the guy can threaten to kill himself and put the blame and stress on you then he doesnt love you as much as he says or hed let you go, my ex did that i ran over to his house and he was just siting their sayin yeah at least i got you here, he has no respect for your wants and desires, just speak to him and make it clear that there is no going back and you only want to be friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): Send an email telling him once more that its over and he must deal with it, no if's and's or but's.
After you send it, delete any emails you may receive from him without reading; if he calls you pick up the phone - but put it down IMMEDIATELY without saying anything. (This will reinforce the message that you mean what you say). If he comes to your door do not let him in. If he comes to your workplace, report it to your supervisor if he is harrassing you. Or the police.
You have made the right decision, and you must not allow yourself to be intimidated in this way. He's manipulative and a control freak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2007): Well done for having the strength to leave this guy!! Its never easy when you break up with some one! Don't give in to his emotional black mail what ever you do!! You've made your decision and stick with it! You don't want to go back to be miserable and unhappy all over again do you?You've tried talking to him but he obviously didn't want to listen or kno what you had to say so its his loss now that you've made your decision to leave him!My ex done the same when I broke up with him! He threatened suicide, said he took loads of pills, washed down by alcohol but it was pure bulls**t in the end! Just let his family kno what he is saying and threatening so they can keep an eye on him!
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reader, Yos  +, writes (16 March 2007):
 You've made the right decision, stick with it. Anyone who would emotionally blackmail you with threats of suicide is not someone you want to be in a relationship with. Two and a half years is long enough for you to really get to know each other and for him to have his chance to keep you. Well done for leaving, it's not easy, especially when someone does something like this. If you really think there is a chance he'll do it, let his family / friends know.
My best friend had a girlfriend that threatened suicide when he left her. Last thing I heard she was threatening suicide to her latest boyfriend who was also trying to leave her.
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reader, Mee  +, writes (16 March 2007):
There must have been reasons good enough to break up with him, you were so unhappy, do you want to be unhappy all your life? He wouldnt kill himself thats for sure, its just a threat.
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