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writes: dear cupid.i would appreciate some valued advice.long story short.i had a baby with my ex over fifteen yrs ago.seperated after birth.i picked piece up.always looking over my shoulder.fear of taking baby.but alway got mysterious phone calls at work and home.moved hse + got on with life.started new relationship.always felt being watched.till proved right one day.demanded to see chid.had found where i lived.threatened safty of new boyfriend.finished with boyfriend for his safty.had information on ex regarding other assaults.l let him see child until i moved without telling anybody.i made no contact for one year.thing is .he always seems to find me.+phone calls cotinue.i know who it is.i cant live my life like this any more.fear has stopped me before.my child is grown now.i just not sure for my own safty.please advise how to deal with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006): DEFO GO OUT N GET SUM PROFFESSIONAL HELP...GO TO POLICE...IF U REPORT SUMTHING NOW...LATER ON U WILL BE THANKFULL..JUS IN CASE SUMIT HAPPENS...ALSO..DNT END ANY RELATIONSHIPS WITH PEOPLE U CARE FOR..AS UR PUTTING UR LIFE ON HOLD FOR THAT FOOL EX HUSBUND OF URS...PROTECT UR SELF...BU U REALLLY CANT GO ON LIKE THIS...TELL NEIGHBOURS TO BE VIGILANT AS WELL..BEST OF LUCK...KEEP US POSTED...GOD BLESS U AND URZ..FRIEND X
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2006): You may have to look into getting a restraining order, eventually if he gets too close. But then, that has never stopped stalkers. He's obviously a delusional, dangerous man who is harboring some feelings of anger, resentment and possibly likes the idea of keeping you 'living in fear'. He sounds possessive and he likes to treat people like property. I can only imagine how absolutely terrifying it must have been for you, protecting your child from him, all this time. It's likely he feels entitled to doing this to as a sense of warped revenge for you rejecting him, so many years ago. The man is plainly sick and he's a stalker and he's doing something highly illegal and you have the right and privilege to live your life in peace. You have to begin building a case against this guy...get proactive and fight back. Proof and constant vigilance along with documentation is one of the most important aspects of proving this man is a stalker and he's harrassing you. Start doing that today. Keep track and record everything. If you see him near your property, take photos or video, without his knowlege. You have to be sneaky, but please protect yourself. Do not confront him...ever. It will only reinforce his motivation and he'll stalk you even more. Record and/or tape phone calls. Help yourself and please, make the police aware of him and they could tell you what needs to be done because 'actual, viable' proof is what will be needed to put this guy away. Please call them- today. Keep us posted and I wish you courage, strength and the fortitude to fight back. Good luck and take care.
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