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writes: Why he did not want us to celebrate his birthday together but preferred being alone?Today is my guy's 28th birthday. He did not know I knew his birthday even we have been dating for 4 months already. I knew that by seeing his driver license one day and it became unforgettable in my mind. So I gave him a big surprise by giving him a decent birthday gift right after 12:00am of today when we came back from library. But today I wait him to have dinner together and celebrate his birthday together in a way he likes, he phoned me after class saying that he wanted to be alone because he did not sleep well these days because of studies, he said "it may sound very lame, but I am very low key-"I feel horribly disappointed since I have been waiting for him to get out of class and dine together until 7:20pm, he phoned me back saying something like this. Is this a sign that he does not care me that much so he does not want to spend the most important day with me? I asked me how did he spend the last year's birthday, he said he hold a house party. I asked him what he wanted for this year's, he said he wanted to be alone, why???? I just did not get it and just want to give up since I have invested too much emotions to this relationship. Reply to this Question
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (14 April 2006):
 Hi Anon,
Listen, just because he wanted to be alone on his birthday doesn't mean you pull out of a good healthy Relationship. Keep it going and all will be well.
Phoebe
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reader, Clarey +, writes (11 April 2006):
 I would not worry about this at all. Men often do not seem to have the same interest in birthdays. My Dad is 70 today and he did not want the big present I was planning. He wants me to donate $15 towards a woodwork bench! The fact that your boyfriend had a big party last year doesn't mean he would want to do it every year. My boyfriend was very late home from work on his birthday and we cancelled dinner too, he was exhausted. I think your present was well received and perhaps your boyfriend felt that was enough especially as he is tired. I would just simply believe him and go out another night at the weekend instead.
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