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He is the perfect guy but he will not claim me!! He does not call me "his girlfriend." Should I keep my options open?

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Question - (1 May 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 1 May 2008)
A female United States age 36-40, *ekia writes:

I have been talking to this guy since january. He is a real gentalmen. He calls me every morning before going to work to tell me to have a good day. He also says don't let those people stress you out at work. All the GOOD stuff. But for some reason he won't call me his girlfriend.

He says that that's just a name. But come on now, were both grown here. I don't know if it's because he's like, 5 years older then me or what.

He always talks about moving out of state and he wants me to go with him. When he calls he always asks about my son.

He is just the perfect guy but he will not claim me. He just says we are friends.

He tells other people we are just friends. So if we are just friends, should I keep my options open(not having sex or nothing).

But if another Mr. Right come along, would i be wrong to end our FRIENDSHIP?

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A female reader, Pasha Canada +, writes (1 May 2008):

I agree with the others. He is just dangling a carrot in front of you. Cut the string and move on. I myself just done the same. You are worth more than that.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008):

Its about time this guy stopped messing about and told you where you stand, gosh guys like this really bug me! (sorry I have dated too many of them!)

I would keep him as a freind but don't enter into conversations about moving away, after all if you arent his girlfreind why the heck would you move in with him?? - I mean what would he call you then - his flatmate???

I would keep your options very open and if you get asked out by another hot guy go for it.. you don't have to tell him anything??

Sometimes us girls need a bit more comitment than telephone calls.

Talk to him but don't put your life on hold..go out and enjoy yourself x

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008):

The 5 years extra are really showing. He's hooked you and your dangling like a fish. Play him at his own game and tell him its doubtful you will ever be more than friends, and thats the way you like it. Date some other guys and make sure he knows. He's playing you.

He will soon change tact.

Good luck

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