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writes:This is a long and complicated situatation but here goes...1. best friend jane* get boyfriend sam* june 2007jane* and sam* have a really bad relationship because there was a 5 year age gap and many other problems but as they went out for 10 months i got to know sam* and became close with him, and i really fancied him so i stayd friends with him after thier break up, dont get me wrong i tryed to keep away it was like i was addicted i had to talk to him all the time i couldnt help myself.however jane* was unaware of this and me and sam* kept our friendship a secret as i didnt want to upset her and make her think i had betrayed her trust.2. after sam* and jane* had been broken up for 6 months i started to invited sam* round as i missed his company (when they were together i'd see him every weekend) and we got on just as well as before if not better, laughing and joking alot.i got to the point where i had 'got over sam*' and then started a realationship with a guy i had known for 2 years tim* 3. me and tim* where getting on great in our realtionship and he would come see me every friday, so one friday i invite sam* over to hang out with me and tim*, sam* comes over we have a bit to drink, as we usually would, when tim* calls me to tell me he cant make it round.at this point i thought i would be sam's* que to leave but he didnt he stayed we chatted and drunk some more, to the point where we were dancing to ABBA..(i kno makes you cringe!) when i suggested to go upstairs ans the sound system in my room is better....oopssam* starts really flirting with me and then HE kisses me!!!! one thing lead to annother.after the sex i thought we had completly killed our friendship but we were better then ever it was like the most amazing night ever!.5. in the morning sam* left and i ended it with tim*6. then i few days later i got talking to sam* and i told him how i really felt and he told me he felt the same! i thought we both seemed happy that it was all up in the air however its been 3 days since we had the conversation and ive spoken to him since and he hasnt asked me to be in a relationship with himWHHHYYYYY???!!!help me please my heads a mess!!!x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your words
I know I seem like a right bitch but it did just happen, ans she dosent know, i wasnt planning on her finding ut unless something between me and Sam* happend relationship wise otherwise its just unnecerssary heart ache right?
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reader, Baybegal  +, writes (6 July 2008):
Ok so personally what you have done to your best friend was wrong. wrongest thing you could do but im not writing to critisize what you have done. This sam guy seems like a headcase though. I think maybe it was just some drunken fun that you two had one thing led to another and yahhhh... but you should already know he is not a really good guy being he could sleep with his ex's bestfriend right?. I dont think he will ask you to be in a relationship with him because he know see's you didnt have to be in a relationship the first time to sleep with him so maybe you'll just do it again?. Its defiantely a difficult and confusing situation but this guy just seems like he does his own thing and doesnt want a relationship and well if it does happen he asks you out or whatever I cant see it lasting long and I truly hope you dont lose your bestfriend!
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