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writes:So this is a long story. I dont know what to do. I met this guy on a night out about 6 weeks ago. I wasnt looking for anything as Id just had 2 bad experiences in a row. BUT anyway I was drunk and kissed this guy as he was cute. Next thing I know he got my number and hes chatting away to me and we're getting on well considering we're both drunk. He walked me home and texted me he nex day. I texted him back but I wasnt too bothered as Id just stopped seeing someone else. So anyway he kept texting and then asked if I'd like to go out sometime. I was delighted and said yes. Another part to this, Im Irish he's canadian and Irish guys dont ask girls out as much and we dont really date like canadians/americans. Anyway he texted some more and suggested we go on a dinner date (a dinner date is unheard of in ireland ,you dont get that till youre actually going out!) So I was pretty excited but more about the date than him.So we had the date, he was very cute and very nice and we had lots in common. We went kissed and went for a walk on the beach at 3am after. Then he walked me home. so anyway we kept meeting up and he tld me he liked me. a week later roughly we got very drunk and were kissing in his room and i started crying cos i was drunk and told him i didnt want something casual or have sex now. He was completely cool with that and then we agreed to be boyfriend and girlfriend as we both really liked each other (2 weeks after we met!) i kept asking him was he ok with that and he assured me he was. So we kept going out but all we did was kiss and fool around a little. About 2 weeks later he came over and told me he couldnt stay here any longer as he cant get work here and he'd be guaranteed work in canada. I was really upset and cried a lot. however he then said oh you could visit canada but started backtracking when i said i would! we then started making out and nearly had sex that day. we talked about it after and he said not to do anything i didnt want etc. so i thought about it and went on the pill first . while i did that he went away for a week, during that time he stopped texting me. i got really upset over this and i called him when he got back and he was like oh i didnt have credit but i was upset as i was also going away and after that we might not see each other again and he was making no effort to see me. he's been back in ireland 2 days and not texted me. so i felt he was losing interest . i called him and he was all apologetic and asked me over but when i went over he was weird and we werent getting on. we had a fight over him not calling me and the next morn something still felt wrong so i asked him if he still liked me like before and he said no somethings changed. taht really upset me and i freaked out.he then said he had issues with commitment (we're breaking up anyway because of him leaving!) and he'd dumped all his exes because of his fear. we were supposed to go for dinner the next night but he texted me saying he didnt think we should after that and he really enjoyed our time together and wished it worked out better. i freaked again and called him and was really mad. he then said he did want to see me but he was afraid that id still be angry. obv!! so he came over and we went for a coffe and he apologised. later on we had sex .i dont want to be judged for this please but i do regret it now. he is supposed to come and see me before he goes but i havent heard anything yet its thurs and he leaves sunday and il never see him again and ive so much i want to say. however im waiting for him to contact me as i feel its his turn to amke the effort. im so upse becos he treated me so well for ages and then turned around and forgot about me . so should i wait or do i contact him???
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2010): He sounds like a jerk. :-(
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