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writes: Hello. Well, I have been talking to this guy for about a month now. We have been on two days in the past, both ending really well, both ending in kisses. He said we will definitely have to go on a date again when he comes back (he is currently studying in a different country - he is doing a PhD). Well, ever seen he's been out there , he would text everyday first no matter what, and sometimes video call me, but recently, he would text every other day now suddenly, he hasn't text me in nearly a week? I do text him first occasionally to see if he was wanting me to text him first but I don't think that's it. I'm confused because the last time we spoke, he asked me if he would like to meet him when he returns, (to which I said yes, definitely) as he is back next week and if he can attend to my birthday celebration (to which I said yes to, as well).I'm so confused, if he wasn't interested - why arrange to meet me? And want to come to my birthday celebration? I know he's not THAT busy, like, he posts pictures on Instagram so surely he's NOT that busy? He has made it very clear in the past he likes me, such as telling me he can see something great coming from this, always compliments me (says I'm beautiful, lovely, sweet, etc, I do compliment him back. He used to call me babe/baby but he has stopped that too... But I have never called him babe (except maybe once or twice, but nowhere as near as many times as he did) Has he lost interest? Should I text him? What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEven better idea! I will do that! Thank you for your help :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (31 March 2015):
how about you call him and see how he is and NOT ask if he still wants to meet you and assume he does...
just call to say HI!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is back on Saturday. And you are right about him owing me nothing because he doesn't, I just find it weird the way we would text everyday and now he hasn't text me for a week. I think I'm going to phone him just to see how he is and maybe ask if he still wants to meet me?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 March 2015):
and when does he come back?
sounds to me like it's a big todo about nothing.
you like him but aren't formally dating... he owes you nothing.
why not send him a text or give him a call just to say hi if you are just friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't think he's lost his phone because you need a phone to upload pictures on Instagram. Maybe he does need a break. Who knows? Would you recommend me texting him? He text me first last time but I was the last one to say something. Well, I believe it ended well as he asked to meet me when he comes back and take me out somewhere... We aren't officially dating.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 March 2015):
maybe he's sick?
maybe he's busy?
maybe he lost his phone?
who knows... and maybe just maybe he needs a bit of a break.
if where you left it was good, then just sit back and see what happens....
how long will you two be LDR?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOp here. I don't understand why he just wouldn't say I'm not interested anymore or something, instead of dragging me along making me believe that we have something.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (30 March 2015):
We guys experience a very difficult (internal) struggle when we have a "long distance" girl "out there".... and some cute little hottie shows up, nearby....
Please consider that... and see if it doesn't explain his recent behaviour....
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2015): dont stress too much about why he hasn't texted you yet. Clearly it's not healthy for the mind. It seems clear that you like this guy. Why don't you text him see how he's doing. Just a casual text. At least you ow you've made an effort. If he ignore you then let him do the chasing.
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