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writes:So I met this boy on holiday (we are both 16) we had about 4 days together and I would sneak out of our house to go see him. we really bonded and it was sweet, we both made the effort etc... When we had to part ways, trust it was emotional. We added each other on Skype, twitter, YouTube, basically plenty of ways of contacting each other (he didn't have a phone, he kept using his friends as he threw his in the sea for reasons) when we got back home. NB before I go on, yes this is a 'long distance' thing, I live in the west midlands, he down in west Sussex. Pretty far apart. But we had spoken about meeting up. He suggested it. He also informed me that he was going to America for a long time, ie. over 5 months. Time difference, I get it. But staying up at one in the morning waiting is dedication and we have spoken whilst he was over there so it wasn't impossible. My point is, I didn't know whether I was just there and he wanted something to do on his holiday or whether he was sincere but I don't want to let it go this easy. we have only been back about 3 weeks since the holiday, but a full week without contact is just annoying, could this work. i am the one having doubts and he was the one to suggest to meet up, but we never really talked about what happened or what it was. I don't call him my boyfriend but I wouldn't imagine doing anything with anyone else. What is going on? I am not ready to let it go, it's too soon. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2012): I think he's moved on.
If he was in the same country it would be just a couple of train journeys between you so the distance could be tackled quite easily, but if he's in another country, at your ages, its going to be quite difficult to just go and visit each other when you want I'd imagine.
Maybe he's just been quicker to realize this.
Perhaps he didn't want to tell you he thinks its better to move on because he didn't want to see you hurt or upset, and was hoping you would realize the reality of the situation and move on yourself without any drama.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2012): I think a whole week with no contact, and no explanation of very good excuse for it, tends to mean he's moved on. I'm very sorry to say that and hopefully I'm wrong, but in my personal experience, as soon as someone starts ignoring you or only giving you short, evasive answers, it means it's over. Long distance is hard at the best of times, let alone when you don't have a comitted, solid relationship to begin with. I would just treat this as a fun, holiday romance and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2012): I put money on it that he liked you just as much, but long distance for your age or anyone's age is a hard thing to do. It probably wont work out but it doesnt hurt to keep in touch. This is exactly how i ended up with one of my closest friends and now i wouldnt want her anyway else, i love her as a friend, and we trust each other with everything. What ever happens you shouldnt regret it, this is a memory you can smile about in time thinking of old crushes and will always have that what if thought.
Lastly dont take that probably not to heart, if you truly think its worth it and you both want it enough together anything is possible.
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