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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship because I'm away for school. Up until recently, our relationship has been pretty amazing despite the distance. We've had our fair share of disagreements, but they've never been serious and we always try to put it behind us immediately. But recently I messed up pretty badly. Basically, it came out that I may have feelings for another guy. He got really upset - both angry and sad. From my end, it actually sounded like he may have been crying. I kept apologizing and assuring him that I'm choosing our relationship and him over everything. We talked it out and we decided that we were going to try to move past this.I'm not under the impression that everything should be back to normal in the blink of an eye or anything. I know he's upset and I know it's going to take time for him to get over this and I know that I'm going to have to, in essence, "prove" myself to him. Things have been very noticeably different. And I understand that... but the more time that passes, I feel like things are getting worse. We aren't talking as much as before, we aren't talking like we used to, etc. But, honestly, the worst thing is that all of a sudden, he has stopped telling me that he loves me and misses me altogether. Before, it actually seemed like we were on track to fixing everything, but now I'm not sure. I'm at a loss for what I can do help fix this...Any advice?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (15 February 2013):
 sounds like he's guarding himself... how soon can you two see each other? how often are you seeing each other now?
he's going to be pretty sure you're with the other guy...
men often have fragile egos.. (not that women don't but things that upset women don't always upset men and vice versa)
the idea of o you finding another guy so attractive as to think about being with him is very upsetting... and that guy is where you are.... even more upsetting..
LDRs are so hard... and I think we need to actually prohibit LDRs for college students... just too much going on to maintain a healthy relationship at a distance.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (15 February 2013):
 Don't waste your time. The "LDR" is over... and so aren't you and this guy.....
Good luck...
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