A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear CupidI am gay and was in a relationship with my best friend for about 6 months we have know each other for about 1 year and a half. I told him about 6months ago that I care for him deeply and I am in love with him. He first said that he love me to but like a brother and he will never want to loose my friendship. So I was cool with that cause we got along really well. But for the past 3 months my feelings grew more for him and I always told him how I feel and then he said he loves me to. But he told me that he wants to marry me later this year in his home country. He said we would be free to do as we like because where we are from my country is small and all his family and friends are here so he has a certain image to maintain cause he is divorced and has a kid but the kid is not on the island. We live in the Caribbean so the people here are very small minded. So I understand how he feels. And he is very shy when it come to gay talk around his friends or stranger's. He has no girlfriend but he does have sex with girls but he says he does not love them. And the things I do for him not even his wife did for him when they were married. He says his marriage was arranged by his father so he never loved his wife he felt like a hard piece of wood whenever he slept next to her, he was very intimate with me alot about his his life. So I understood him to a great deal.We are like a married couple I do everything for him I massage him, iron his clothes dress him everything a girlfriend does for her boyfriend. We even sleep in the same bed together he hugs me all night till morning and I feel so safe in his arms he refers to me as the love of his life and he makes jokes to his family that I am his wife and we all laugh about it. But him and I know he is serious.But something went wrong a few days ago with one of his friends and myself and I told him in front of his friend how much I love and care about him in my drunken state because his friend wanted to take him to go fuck a girl and he was already in his bed asleep and I told his friend to leave him alone and I cursed his friend out! After that he never spoke to me again he told his friend that he does not like me any more because I made him shy in front of all his family. And he does not want to be my friend again. He went on Saturday and fucked a girl I was at his home but i did not know he left earlier but on sunday he invited one of his friends over and he began to tell him how he had sex with the girl and all the details in front of me cause we were all around the same area I acted like I did not hear a word he said. He told me to go sleep in the other room and not with him. I told him I am going to my apartment so he does not have to worry. I packed my things and left his home. But when I got into my car I found the towel he used with the girl and the hotel key. I just sighed like WHATEVER!! and left. He has not texed me or called me which he does whenever we have an argument. Please give me some advise. I really love this man What should I do??
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): you need to give him time If he does have feelings for u they will return .But because of where you live and his marrage its going to be difficalt for him to be with you like he was Untill everythings back to normal and people have forgot what you said when you was drunk. dont over text jusj remind him that your still his friend
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