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writes:I NEED HELP IVE WITH MY BOYFRIEND FOR TWO YEARS NOW AND I THINK SOMETHING IS WRONG LATELY IVE BEEN SUSPECTING ABOUT HIM DOING SOMETHING ON THE COMPUTER HE HAS BEEN LOOKING AT SHEMALE PORN WE HAVE TWO COMPUTERS ONE IN OUR BEDROOM AND THE OTHER IN THE EXTRA ROOM WHEN THE DOOR IS SHUT HE DOEST WANT ME TO GO IN AND I KNOW HES MASTERBATING BUT WHAT BOTHERS ME IS HES JERKING OFF TO SHEMALE PORN DOES THIS MEAN THAT HES GAY OR BISEXUAL AND HE LOOKS AT CHICAGO CRAIGSLIST ITS WHERE YOU COULD BUY FURNITURE BUT ITS ALSO WHERE YOU CAN GET ESCORTS AND ALL TRANNIES AND SHEMALES AND RECENTLY HES BEEN AT A WEB CITE CALLED CHICAGOREADER AND THEY HAVE ADULT SECTION UNDER PERSONALS AND HE WENT TO ADULT FINDERS FOR TRANNIES AND SHEMALES THEY GIVE THIR NUMBERS ONLINE AND HE CALLED AND THE NUBER REGISTERED AS INCOMING CALLS WHAT SHOULD I DO AM I OVERLOOKING ALL THIS PLEASE HELP.
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reader, PrettyLikeDrugs  +, writes (10 February 2007):
If he's watching girl on girl then [without knowing if he watches guy on guy] you can't say that he is bi or gay. Hint: he's watching GIRLS not BOYS. A lot of girls find guy on guy hot, that doesn't make them bi or gay. Just talk to him about it. If him watching porn in general makes you uncomfortable, say. If you mention him possibly being gay/bi, you must remember what a sensitive subject that can be for people. Even if you're homophobic, please punch a hole in the wall when he isn't around. It's just insulting otherwise.
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reader, Horsegirl  +, writes (31 January 2007):
 Wow, I know you're frantic, but the caps lock hurts the eyes! Ok Lesson 1 Don't ever type in caps for an entire message!!!!!!! Only for an important little peice of information.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (20 January 2007):
 BSLD I have answered this question twice when you have PM'd me. You have also posted it on here before as well. I cannot understand why you feel the need to keep asking the same question over and over again. Unless you don't like the answers you have been given?
NOBODY here can tell you what to do. They can give you advice.
If you are uncomfortable with his 'hobby' you must address whether you want to live with this or whether you cannot. If you cannot then you know you must end this relationship.
What is lacking here is actually communication. Have you tried to actually talk to HIM about his need for this? You may be suprised to find this is just a phase.
Please talk to your Bf and then address this issue together. Nobody here can give you the information you need. It is something you need to address with him first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2007): wow. thats one long sentence hehe. i got in a panic just reading it hehe xxx
anywho you gotta just ask him. its not gonna be an easy conversation but it'll be a lot easier than wondering if your boyfriend is gay or bisexual or whatever. keep calm and try not to go on the attack and make him close up. best of luck xxx
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reader, Amethyst +, writes (20 January 2007):
 Wow, I know you're frantic, but the caps lock hurts the eyes! x.x
My only suggestion is if you want to know what's going on, ask him. Sit down with him and calmly ask him what he's doing, promise him you won't get mad and KEEP THAT PROMISE! If he's bi, he's bi! There's no way you're ever going to change that fact. At least you saw him looking at porn, and not the real thing!
Good luck, sorry I'm not much help at the moment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2007): As I said to you when you DCMailed me 3 days ago:
Firstly, can I request that you type not in all capitals? It's a bit harder to read and is annoying altogether. Second, as for your boyfriend looking at shemale porn, it is possible that he is bisexual. However, it is shemale porn - where men look like women and/or dressed like women.
The thing is, he could be bisexual, or he could simply be sexually curious about 'women' with penises. One concept I have is that since he is a man, he knows how a man should be pleasured, thus having a 'woman' with the sexual characteristics of a man can give him a sense of sexual gratification mentally as well as span outwards physically.
As for you being over-sensitive and if you should overlook this, this is really up to you. If you're fine with this, then overlook it. If you're not fine with this, you have to keep the lines of communication with him open. Express your thoughts and your needs and wants and see where he is in your relationship with him. Ask him everything you want to know, even the things you feel may hurt you and/or the relationship.
In short, some people are willing to live in a numbing delusional relationship with their partners. Others, somewhere in between, and the rest, they rather know all than to live partially satisfied.
What do you honestly want to do?
**Thus, you never replied so I assumed either I wasn't much help, or you refused to 'listen'.
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (20 January 2007):
 de-caps lock that thing...
well if you're using two computers, you can get a router and block certain websites you dont want viewed or even disconnect the other computer. But if your bf is gay, you should know sooner rather than later. he may just be curios
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2007): if you think he is gay confront him once and for all
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