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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Okay So.. I guess I have a problem.. A major problem. I've been with my "fiance" for A year and 9 months. Truthfully, I should have stayed away from him in the beginning. Let's just say he was the popular boy in high school who went to parties, got drunk and definitely got around. I was never that kind of girl so I pretty much hated him when we went to school together. But two years after he graduated a friend of mine sent me a text while she was at his house and kind of got the ball rolling I guess. Honestly, I never had intentions of getting serious, but after hanging out with him for a little while, I started to think he had changed. Long story short, we began dating. 4 months into it I found out I was pregnant. It was very unexpected and far sooner than I had ever planned for myself. But it was my mistake and my responsibility. Either way, He was there and has remained there throughout the whole thing. The only problem is, it's been hell. From day one, I later found out, It's been lie after lie. First he lied about the number of girls he's been with. He said 11 but later confessed to have been with anywhere from 50 to 70 women. That made me sick to my stomach. I wanted to leave so bad, but I almost felt compelled to stay with him because after all, I was pregnant with his child. Then I read messages on his myspace where he is complimenting other girls pictures on their profile. That literally broke my heart. But I got over it. And I told him either he stops, or we stop. Well he stopped talking to girls on myspace and started acting like a real man. The only problem is I can't get over his past. I know that bad, But really I can't. It's nearly been a year since we've had any real problems but I keep having a problem with him. Ex: His best friend is dating a girl that he used to have sex with all the time. Recently we were in Sam's Club and his best friend came up (With the girl) and talked to him. I, having no idea about their past relations, smiled at the girl and was very nice. After we walked away my fiance says "I used to hump her all the time" Really? Does he not know how that makes someone feel? I'm always so insecure about girls now, where ever we go. I always think "Has he had sex with her?" "Have they been together" I literally make myself so sick that all I want to do is lay in bed and not wake up. I feel like I cant go anywhere without being around someone he's been with. He says I'm the only one he loves, but that doesn't make me feel any better. Gosh, I'm gettin sick just thinking about it now.What should I do?Should I stay with him and try to deal with itOr just leave and never have to worry about it again?Pleeeaase Help Me!!
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