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writes:im in love with a guy...that i should not be in love with, because he has a gf. but im to the point that i think he may be with me in the end. i try to go days with no contact in attempt to leave him alone, but it hasn't worked. we had a talk last night and he said he's bored without me. What does he mean by saying he's bored without me. i kind of took this as an insult. what do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): 1st off have u ever dated him before? in everyones lifetime there is that one person nomatter who you date there alwais in the back of your mind. youre one true love or youre 1st. maybe he loves you just as much as you love him.
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reader, Nielle06 +, writes (14 November 2008):
It just sounds to me like he wants 2 have his cake and eat it to. don't let him use you like that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2008): He's bored without you? It means one of three things:
1) he likes you a lot and misses you... but he's not exiting out of the other relationship, to be with you, completely... is he. So that is pretty telling. He's got 2 females on the hook and he's could be enjoying every minute of it. If you have a lot of self-worth, it might be smart to insist she goes or... you do. Or
2) if you have been avoiding him and trying hard 'not' to contact him, then you could be proving to be a challenge, to him. He likes that too, because you keep him guessing. But what happens when he does get his hooks into you? Maybe he will dump the current girl and date you but what happens when you bore him? Will he move on to the next challenge? Or
3) if you are having sex with him, behind his gf's back...he bored with her, because you are newer 'goods' and he likes the change. In which case, I have to ask why are you allowing this?
No matter which of the above applies to you and him, the fact still remains that he is on the lookout for someone new and challenging, for him. There are some guys like this who flit from relationship to relationship, never settling for the 'real' thing. As you state your age to be 26-29, so I am assuming he is thereabouts in the same age range, as well. If so, then I have to say that usually high school boys flit back and forth between different females, due to immaturity and lack of responsibility to the feelings of others But even most of these young teen guys, do grow up and move on from this type of behavior. They become committed 'adults'. It sounds like you have a “kid” for a guy friend, acting irresponsibly, not behaving like a caring, mature adult man, which is what you want..I hope.
I don't know, you do. But, if he's like this, then his painful actions towards his current gf, could indicate a uncommitted young man. Listen, I think it's okay to date, break up and move on..everyone does that. We all want to find the best well-suited partner for ourselves. So be careful here...stop being available to him...he may klike just the convenience of having you, in the background. And think..this could happen to you! So before you date him anymore, just heed all the advice here and remember, he may not change but you can. Be strong, girl! Take care.
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reader, helpjayne  +, writes (13 November 2008):
 he sounds like a user no offence but i had an ex who got a new gf and he kept telling me he missed me and he was so bored without me i asked how and he came up with all these sexual reasons. maybe he misses you in a sexual way
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2008): Bored without you translates you're his fun toy. Period.
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