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36-40,
anonymous
writes:i have been dating a guy that is a gentleman but i am not that atracted to him. He is very sweet and i gave it a real go but the attraction is missing (for me).I know he has really fallen for me and that i should have just broken it off with him but i didn't because i enjoy his company (as friends).I wish i had broken it off before, because now he has given me a ring and told me he loves me. and the last time i saw him, it went a bit further than kissing. i had to leave as he is a virgin and i didnt want to take his virginity as i think it should be with someone that really likes him back and i just like him as a friend.How do i tell him i don't want to see him any more without crushing him? (and its going to be really awkward giving him the ring back!-help!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009): I'm afraid you can't do this without hurting him. He wants to be with you , so you can say it as kindly as you can msuter and it will still hurt.
But you can't think about that. You have to think about yourself and what is best for you. If you worry too much about the way that he feels right now, you'll end up dragging things on and on and on until he's really head over heals and then it'll hurt even more.
He holding onto the back of your bumper and you're just driving. Doesn't that hurt as it is? Don't you think you should use the break at some point, let him off, and let him recover?
I think so. As sweet as you are, you have to be concerned with his future, not his present.
Goodluck Love. I know it's hard. Be strong.
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