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anonymous
writes:it's kinda long story...i met this guy at church before one day he came to me, introduced each other then we didn't meet each other till one day i talk to him to ask something,he answered coldly at first.next week he came to me and said he wantsmy number so that we'll be able to know about each other.so we message each other bout a week.the way he sms was so caring as if he has crush on me before i gave him number.he asked me that i had a boyfriend before or not,also he said that he i make him happy..and asked me 'how to say "i like u"?'in language which i came from.when i'm in bad mood he called me to cheer me up..but one problem is that he never ask me out and seems to avoid me when we saw each other at church..5days later,his message wasn't the same as first day;he reply short message,wasn't as warm as before,as if i'm a internet friend...so i asked for advice from my friends,they said that he's been playing with my heart and he'll ask me out if he really likes me.they told me to stay cool,act as if i'm popular without him..now my head is full of thought and i really wanna know what's his intention upon me..is he playing on me like what my friend says or he's just shy to talk to face-to-face??plz give me clear answers!!
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reader, moonlight baby  +, writes (20 January 2010):
your not annoyin me its no problem honest :)
i think that he does seem to like you becuase he bought you a present and he calls you when you need him too and he asks you about other boys and a boy wouldnt just do that for fun.
I think that he is just very shy. The only thing im not clear on is him asking you about his friend. Was he basically asking you if you like any other boys ?
becuase if he was then that is deffiantly a sign that he likes you becuase thats like jealousy about his friend.
And the texts could be that he wants to show he likes you by sending "caring texts" but doesnt want to freak you out or want to make him self seem clingy so then his texts are "normal".
and the caring step back thing is common in boys its like they wanna show you they care and like you but then they dont want to seem too much soo they step back !
i still say that you should just send him one text saying
" Do You Like Me ? X "
and then just wait and see what he says to that
:) xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks again :)...few nights ago,i told him to
call me cuz i was in bad mood and he did.
he kept asked me whether i have men or close guy friend around me or not,about 2 times.
i said 'no,i have guys who liked me but i never had a bf'
however he asked same thing when we talk on phone.
also he told me about his friend and asked 'what do i think
about his friend?''do i like his friend or him more?'
he doesn't text me a lot..but he talks more on a phone..
one thing i really got pissed is that next day he seems to like me and doesn't on another next day. should i say "caring and then they step back"like what you said..
can you tell me what's his intention plz? sorry if i
annoy you by keep asking for answers
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reader, moonlight baby +, writes (19 January 2010):
If he gave you a present then he obviously has some feelings for you or he really wouldnt bother.
i can see why you would be suspicious but he could be telling the truth about not talking to you because of his mom
my boyfriend would NEVER talk to me infront of his mom because hes not allowed a gf becuase his mum wants him to focus on his education so it could be the same kinda thingg.
But i really do think thats you should just ask him how he feels about you becuase he seems like he does and i think that you should take the risk and ask him how he feels because its the only way you will find out
:) xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for advice moonlight lady..recently he gave me bracelet
as late christmas present,he told me the reason he didn't talk to me at church because of his mom is strict and doesn't want his son to talk to girl.
that 'his mom' part made me suspicious of him.
i never heard a guy use his mom as excuse for not
seeing me.like you said he may be shy,but i don't
trust what he said cuz he's 18-19yrs old!
he also told me he isn't able to go out freely on weekends
cuz his mom told him to study.
i think he's flirting with me..if guy really like a girl
he'll definitely ask her out no matter what!
but who knows?may be it's just my negative thought or imagination..plz i need your advice!!!!!!!
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reader, moonlight baby +, writes (17 January 2010):
this is a typical boy he seems as if he cant make his mind up about you.
Ive been through this myself i was in love with this boy and sometimes i felt he felt the same but then sometimes he was just distant like you said about the texting.
This boy seems as tho he is interested in you with the way he talks to you and calls you when you down to cheer you up so he could just be shy.
Also boys do go through stages where they are all loving and want to be close to you and then they step back for a while and become distant.
So next time you see him face to face just pull him aside so its just you and him and confront him but if he doesnt bother then just leave him because thats unfair on you and he is playing with your feelings.
hope this is useful :) x
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