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*az24
writes:Dear Cupid,I've got a strange situation here. At my college, I developed a crush on this guy, who i think likes me back and couldn't admit the truth! He was South American, which didnt help, but he'd flirt, touch me on my arms, (stroked my shoulder while I was sitting next to and talking to him, even though we were both drinking alcohol) refer to my looks and body, compliment my skills, laugh at a joke that no one else in my class found funny. I mean it's pretty obvious. As I thought the feeling was mutual, I admitted my crush when i drank too much alcohol at a party, then much to my surprise I reckon he lied and said he liked me as friend! Who would lie about liking someone even when they did? How strange right? Why would this guy do this? I haven't seen him in 3 months and can't really get over him, it's hard because I know he's lying! What do I do?
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reader, AngelofLove  +, writes (23 April 2007):
 It is so hard to accept that some people can flirt so well that they could almost seduce an angel.
But it does happen. Unfortunately, this guy did not meant the sweat words or gestures. It is all part of a game to get what they want. to them they are just having a laugh!
Having a laugh at your expense, difficult to accept I know but it is the harsh truth.
The sad part of it all is that "Players" do not even realize they are doing it or that someone might actually have feelings and believe them.
I have to say that not all Players are mean in the sense they are to get you or hurt you. It is just that some players can move on to the next person without emotions and do not take situations as seriously as you.
Learn the lesson rather than feeling like a victim. Became the survivor, kicks like this in life can make you stronger and wiser for next time you encounter this type of person.
There is not easy way to get over someone who does not like you back the same way.
Keep busy, socialize as much as possible, distract your mind when you think of him, quickly by reminding yourself that it was his loss, not yours. You deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2007): if he was lying, if he was really interested in you, three months without any contact wouldnt have passed. get over him. he was just flirting with you. saying this with personal experience. been there.
you deserve someone more honest. for all you know, he must not be sitting and doing and reacting the same way wth another girl, making her feel liked he likes her .
hes NOT into.get the fact right.
take care!
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