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writes:dear cupid i so need ur help...ive been with my boyfriend 4 months. I have 2 children he has 1 which he see's every weekend...the problem is that he has been saying that he's finding it hard with my kids and he is saying he's used to his space...so do u think he is wanting to call it a day or what as he has went from lots of attention and me staying over to a txt a day over the last week...i am in limbo here and thinking whats the point? yours sha x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2007): I think he is letting you down gently, instead of saying things aren't working out the way he wanted he's telling you he wants space. Don't blame yourself or your kids, he just wasn't ready for a full on commitment. I've been in the same situation as you when an ex said to me 'If it wasn't for your kids I would've moved in by now.' Sorry mate but my kids always come first. I'm very wary now with any new partner and always make sure I've been dating for at least 6 months before I introduce them as a friend, not boyfriend to my family. Then at least no-one gets hurt and the kids don't get used to him being around and part of their lives. It takes a special,caring genuine man to take on a woman and her children,but they are out there and you will find happiness when the right person comes along.
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (22 April 2007):
 I would have to question his commitment to the relationship, however you need to consider giving him the space he needs.
You need to talk to him and find out where he sees this relationship going, as you need to find a balance. he cant expect you to be happy with just text message, where before your contact was so much more.
You need to find out his intentions with you and see if there is a chance you can work this out together.
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