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writes: I have been seeeing a guy called Mike for about 5 months now, but lately he wants to end the relationship and go back to his baby's mother, he has a two year old daughter with her. He says he doesn't want to hurt me but he misses his daughter very much and feels like the only way to solve the problem is to go back and live with his family. Now he has stopped calling me and I rarely see him. When I do see him he says he needs time to think about what he his going to do. He does not want to be with the other woman but feels he has to go back to be with his child. He told me that if he does eventually go back it would mean the end for us. Am I right to think that I got used and he is only using his daughter has an excuse? Reply to this Question
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (15 May 2005):
 No, I think he's trying to be a good father to his young daughter.Everything that he's said indicates that he loves his little girl and feels bad about having to make a choice between you and her. It also sounds like he's being honest about it; he may not like the child's mother, but he feels that it's important that he be present and be a good role model in his daughter's life.Honestly, dear, I can't see anywhere in your letter to suggest that you've been "used" for anything. The worst thing appears to be that you and Mike suffered from bad timing in your relationship, but at least he was truthful and is trying to make good decisions for the sake of his daughter.I'm sorry that you were hurt in this situation, but he did the best thing for himself and for his child.
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