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*iss foster
writes:where to begin. at the minute im having housing problems, i have to wait till the council gives me a house one catch though it could be anywhere in my area,me and my partner cant afford to get a private house so we are stuck in this situation, my partner thinks i should stand up for myself more and get us out of this situation and i just feel like its all on my toes all time, its making me ill, i keep on having panic attacks,and then to make matters worse my parents keep on falling out with me over the housing, saying that i should be doing this and that, my head is in bits. and now my partner has decided that he doesnt want our two small children to see them over christmas, cause they interfere too much..... i just dont know what to do, ive lost my own identity trying to please everyone
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reader, miss foster +, writes (7 October 2007):
miss foster is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhiya everyone thanks for your advice and my bloke is a great guy and he does provide but he is going through a messy divorce at the min so he has little money what with every thing else to pay in life and im from manchester in england
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007): Why are you and you alone worrying about this situation? Shouldnt your partner being shouldering some of the responsiblity for finding housing? I dont get this? He doesnt sound like a kind, loving and caring partner to me. Sorry but i think you need to look at this relationship before you start worrying about who goes where over the Christmas period. Tell him to come up with some constructive idea and not destructive one. Just spend a bit of time with your family and divide the time up so you are not getting stressed out but i think the problem lies with your bloke. Sort him first!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2007): I think you need to stop trying to please everyone, and stand up for yourself and your children. Tell your parents that you understand they love you and are just trying to look out for your best interests, but all the criticism and pressure they are putting on you is just making everything worse (tell them about the panic attacks) and what you need most from them right now is their support and understanding, even though you understand it's really hard for them. Tell them it's making it harder for you to be a good mother with all the stress, and for the sake of your sanity and your children, can they please just stop. Tell you partner that you've asked your parents to back off, and hopefully they've agreed, and that your children need their grandparents, so can he please just stop as well. What's most needed now is team work from everyone involved for the sake of your children.
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (6 October 2007):
Your bf is wrong and mean. What kind of guy are you choosing to live with? Why is he not a good provider? You need to calm down and think though a problem each day and the follow through with action. It's your life to live.
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