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writes: I really like this guy but he's not interested in me coz I'm chubby. I'm not fat just not how he wants me to be. I've tried to lose weight but it doesn't work. What can I do ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): This guy is a bad example of the male species you could do better- i bet he isn't perfect- in fact he is far from it if he cant accept someone who they are... stand up wiht ur head strong and tell him and the rest of the world that you are not going to stand for this nonsense and that you can do better...i bet you're fab and he just blatently isn't xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008): Never let someone make you feel bad about yourself like that. The fact that he has picked you, THEN told you to lose weight makes it sound like he picks out people he wants to control and bully. It is easy to undermine people about their weight. I completely adore my partner and he is very overweight. I would never dream of telling him to lose it for that reason, the only think I worry about is being without him because of the ill health that may follow. Being a bit chubby is not that kind of issue. Don't stick with a man like that, they slowly erode your confidence and make it so hard to love yourself. Which in turn makes is hard for you to love. he is a negative person. You deserve someone who will validate you for the wonderful person you are and underline this every day without being asked. Someone who will thank you for being with them and admire you in every sense. Please give him up. If you ever want to lose weight you will. When you have given him up, only then. Then watch him wish he stuck with you..ha ha. Sucker.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2007): He is an arrogant waste of space who probably has a small willy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2007): He should like you for the person you are and not how much you weigh. Forget about this shallow idiot and set your sights on somebody who deserves you
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2005): Well all you have to know does he like you for who you are chubby or not. If he won't go out with you because of that then he is an idiot. Remember it's not whats on the outside it's the inside that counts.
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A reader, leigh, writes (3 March 2005): This guy wants to chnage you to the way that he wants you to be there could be a number of reasons to why he is the way that he is. maybe it's because of his mates or peer pressure. no one can read a man's mind and he's putting a lot of pressure on you.i've had this problem in a past relationship and in the end i did change but with it i lost contact with all my friends and my parents didn't like the person i had become due to the pressure that he had put on me to meet the criteria that he wanted me to meet. it started with him wanting me to lose weight the it escalated into other areas of my life he affected me socially and emotionally and in the end i was really ill and that is the reason why i had to comne out of the relationship. It is your choice what you want to do although if you are happy the way you are then why should you change for a bloke. Maybe he's the one who has the problem and not you.the two of you need to sit down and talk about the reasons why he wants you to change and what exactly it will bring to the relationship betwee the two of you. although the other problem that happens with change is the attention that you may get from other guys when you are out together and this ca lead to insecurity between the two of you and lack of trust as he may feel that you are cheating on him even when you are not. the pair of you need to have a serious talk about the pro's and cons to why he feels you need to loose weight! Although talk it through with your friends and family to see and hear their thughts on the matter before you pursue any. it's your life and your body at the end of the day so it'sd your choice what you do with it but make sure it's becuase you want to and not because he wants you too! XX
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A reader, Mandy, writes (1 March 2005): Is he really worth liking him? He seems shallow and heartless! He should like you for who you are and not what you look like. Don't lose weight for a man, its not worth it. Beauty is only skin deep, its what's on the inside that counts! Move on honey, he's honestly not worth the hassle. Someone will come along who likes you for what you are, whether you're skinny, chubby, fat or just normal, as it shouldn't be an issue. Sorry to be so abrupt, but I strongly disagree with men like this!
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