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female
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36-40,
*aLysia
writes:I've been with my boyfriend for over two years. I am a very affectionate and loving person. He is not too affectionate and it annoys me. It makes me feel like he doesn't love or care about me. Another thing that bothers me is that he doesn't say, "i love you." I have to say it in order to hear it. So I've gotten so used to not hearing it from him that I don't even say it anymore. It bothers me though. I've kind if pulled myself away from him because it's not common to me for people who are in relationships not to express their love for one another. He also doesn't give me any compliments. Like, " you look nice today" or he doesn't ask me how my day was. When I come home from school or work, he doesn't greet me. I've been putting up with it, but this petty stuff is getting old to me. It's like he's a child or something. I am 24 and he is 32. So you would think he would be a lot more mature but no. At home all he does is play x-box games. He doesn't help me out around the apartment. All I ask of him is to take out the trash and fill up the ice trays when needed and to pick up after himself. I do all the laundry, cleaning, dishes, I cook dinner almost every single night even when I have school. I don't feel appreciated at all. I don't feel loved either. I almost feel like I'm being used or like I'm his Mom. And I don't have kids yet nor do I want to take care of a grown man. He didn't get me anything for Valentines day. We were arguing, but even out of anger, I got him a card and some brand new socks that he needed. I have an apartment with him so I've been contemplating whether I should leave when the lease is up. I just am not happy with my relationship the way it is. Maybe we have nothing in common or something. Please tell me what y'all think. Any advice?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (17 December 2011):
 The fact that he doesn't say I love you is nothing to worry about in my opinion because some people just don't express their feelings aloud instead they prefer to show someone how they feel about them through actions. Which brings me to the rest of your questions. He is definately not showing you any love. Unless he shapes up and starts contributing to the relationship send him on his way. There are plenty of other people out there who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
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