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writes: I have a long distance relationship for 7yrs. He only calls me when he's in Durban, we meet only for sex. He promised weekends away but it never materialised. I know I'm wasting my time but each time I breakup with him he begs me to come back to him. I love him and cannot resist. How do I make myself strong to leave him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2006): I've been through this situation; I know exactly how you feel! It's a strange feeling; each time you think to yourself 'he won't do it this time'. Once I got back together with him because I couldn't bear the thought of him with another girl.
This happened three times but the fourth time he asked me out I told myself in my head that he would just hurt me again and I said that I'd had enough of him hurting me and we have been really close friends since; and we're both really happy with where we stand with each other now.
It's the same with you; you have to find it in yourself to know that he is probably only going to hurt you again, and being single then gives you the chance to find someone who won't keep hurting you like this.
You might be lucky like I was; a close friendship might develop out of it. =]
It may take time to find it in you to say no to him but one day it will happen; just don't keep letting it happen because it will start to break you mentally; I know.
Don't put up with it; you're worth better. XXxXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2006): You have to put yourself first. This relationship is not meeting your needs, and it is leaving you very unhappy. Consider these things as you cut all ties with this man. Don't talk to him. Don't answer any calls, text messages, emails, or anything else from him. Completely ignore him and remember why you're doing it. Don't give in. You have the strength in you to deal with breaking up with this man. All he sees in you is a fling, and I know that's not what you want to be to the man you love. Each day that passes with you remaining not in contact with him will become easier. Turn to friends and family for support, as they can be wonderful for finding strength you didn't know you had. You can always message me, too. I may not respond right away but I'll do my best to get to you quickly. You have to be strong for yourself. I know you can do it. Take care of yourself.
~RJGirl
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