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writes:Hey my name is Rosey. I'm in a long distance relationship of 3 years. I'm very grateful for having a loving man that truly cares about me. We plan on getting married after we both finish school. We are the bestest of friends and there never goes a day without us talking. although he treats me amazing he's never bought or done anything romantic for me due to him being short on money.. (even my birthday and valentines)I know relationships mean more then that so I never focus on that too much. We visit when possible. About a month ago I asked him to write me a love letter and he hasn't done it yet .. Whenever I ask him about it he giggles and says he's going to do it but in reality it kinda hurts me. Last night i was a little mood-killed and I talked to him about it but the way he sees it is he was going to do it and whats the big deal if it's now or in 2 weeks? then he asked me if I wanted a date for it to be done and I said no I don't want it anymore. The way I see it is that it wasn't anything that was cost anything but would make me really happy .. So I cried last night but didn't tell him. I'm not sure how to explain my self cause it seems like I'm "fighting" him for a small thing .. But it meant a lot to me and it seems like he dreads it because he never gets to it although he has free time .. and I don't want it if it's kind of a force? Im a little confused .. Help :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2012): Hi, I am someone who is a writer, I love writing poetry, letters, stories, I really enjoy it and have even had some of my stuff published. I am also in a LDR. Even with my experience in writing I find it extremely difficult to write a love letter, it is actually one of the hardest things in the world to write, and if you are feeling pressure from the person your writing it to, it's even harder to write one. I know your feeling hurt by this, but honestly a love letter comes from the heart and it takes time to write one, so give him some space from talking about it and some time to actually write it in his own time. This isn't something I would fight or argue over. I also understand that in Long Distance relationships, mostly all you have is words, because of the distance, just drop this one and enjoy the things you do have together and enjoy the things he says to you because he wants to say them, not because you have asked him to. Good Luck.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (25 February 2012):
 Love letters are one of the most difficult to write, without you sound like your copying someone, or using overused phrases, or sounding like your going of your head.
Many songwriters don't even use the love word anymore, because it doesn't sound like it comes from the heart. Trying to write a love letter by deadline because the girl is getting upset is a sure way to dry up any words he has in his head.
He is trying to write one, but it's not easy.. keep pushing him and you'll end up with "roses are red, violets are blue, sugar is sweet and you smell like poo"... or "your hair is like my favourite jumper that the cat pissed on one day".
You don't want that, so give the guy some space to take time and get it right. How about you write a love letter to him, and post it here. Let's see how easy it is for you to say something meaningful and original.
I'll be awaiting a nice love poem/letter in your update.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (25 February 2012):
 Perhaps he has writer's block, or has trouble putting this thoughts and feelings onto paper. Did you ever think of that?
Is your boyfriend typically a procrastinator?
Instead of pushing him to write this forced love letter, which won't sound all that heartfelt, you need to tell him it would mean a lot to you if he wrote one and remind him that your birthday has passed(?). Then drop it, because this an incredibly petty thing to fight over. Pick and choose your battles, a love letter isn't worth friction in your relationship.
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