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writes:so my live in boyfriend and i have been together for a year we have been goin through some problems certain things he has done to me, it really hurt me! the thing is when he leaves for work around 2 i do not hear from him until he gets home around 1 or 130. Before he used to call me on his break or when he has time now nothing, i asked him why he said that he does not know why, he said why cant i call he cannot remember the last time he saw my name come up on his phone, do u think that is the reason why? he is not sleeping with anyone that i know, so it cannot be that! i have not called him in like almost 2 weeks just text if i hav somethin to say, the way i see it is that he is the one that hurt me and he is the one that should be working to get things back together! am i wrong?when he is home everything is fine i just do not know why all the slience.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (22 March 2010):
 I think he felt unfair that he was the one that was always calling you . Though he is a man, he too needs love and validation of your love and concern for him.
He could not verbalize to you his wants and frustrations. Hence , he decided not to call you at work anymore.
You need to initiate those calls sometime. You only text him when you have something to asked him.
It is not his fault if he does not call you . It is just like a game of tennis. He is serving the ball to you but you don't hit the ball back. It is no fun and he quit playing.
It is a misunderstanding and you need to clear things up . Communicate with him . It doesn't matter who is right or wrong.
The men too want to seek your approvals in what they do. So call him often to show that you love him and is concerned about him.
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reader, Entirely Unique  +, writes (22 March 2010):
 You're right to a point, he hurt you and he should be putting the effort into the relationship to make it work but at the same time you chose to take him back/stay with him after he hurt you and when you forgive someone then to a point you should also let go of what happened and make the relationship work together.
If he doesn't feel he's getting anything back from you and/or you're just not bothering to do the things you're expecting him to do then I'm not surprised he's got to the point where he thinks 'why should I'.
If you want this relationship to work then you need to realise you stayed with him and decided you wanted to make things work so you need to actually be trying to make things work.
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