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writes:Just wanted some feedback. I am with someone for 3 years. We are both divorced. My children are grown and on their own. He has two small children. He is with them every chance he gets, not a problem. My birthday was last Saturday and it was not his weekend for kiddies so I assumed he had a nice plan. As my birthday came closer he told me he forgot and told his ex that he would babysit all weekend so she can go to Christmas parties. I am devestated and feel that he should have told her to get a babysitter. Needless to say we did nothing. He jumps to her every need and I feel like he didn't put my feelings or birthday first. Not sure if I can ever get over this. ?????
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reader, 48years  +, writes (26 December 2008):
 I don't blame you.
The dating relationship sets the ceiling for the marriage-it'll never get better than it is right now. So, if you hope to marry this guy and his ex and his kids, better get your anger out in the open and the heck with him if he gets upset.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2008): You have the right to be upset!!that day should have been for you and him, it's not like he did not know that your birthday was comeing up,you need to make sure he is not still creeping with his child mother,I could be wrong, but that is what it sounds like to me.I think he should have put his foot down and told his child mother he had plans.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2008): I could understand being upset....I would sit him down and explain to him that all though you are supportive of his responsiblity to the children. It was your birthday its 1 time a year and you are really hurt that he planned nothing. Then take sometime and evaluate what this man can really give you.having small kids is going to really eat up a lot of his time.
I hope this helps. Stay strong!
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