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writes:I get upset when my bf calls me while he's high on pot. He doesnt behave normally, giggles all the time and i can't have a normal conversation with him. Yesterday he called me and was like that so i cut the conversation a little short. He said he was buzzed from having too many beers but i found out the next day that he was actually completely stoned. He doesnt smoke very often but when he gets pretty high. He told me that he couldnt tell me on the phone because his parents were nearby. I always get upset when i know hat he's been smoking weed, maybe because he used to be heroin addict or maybe because im uptight (never done drugs except for pot a few times) but i told him not to call me next time that happens. And he was like "why??" and i told him because it's not fun talking to someone who is high. Just like talking to someone who is drunk. I didnt say it in a mean way, just that next time he shouldnt call me. And he got all upset and said "who cares? Who gives a fuck" and he obviousy took it as some kind of rejection so much so that he took off and had to go outside to smoke a cigaret (he quit smoking a few months ago). He thinks im so against drugs which im not but i just dont want to be entertaining him on the phone when he's high while im obviously not. I think it's disrespectful but somehow he doesnt agree. Am i wrong?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2012): Hi, im the OP. Thank you for your response, especially coming from someone who used to be a pot head! At least you speak from experience! The thing is, he wasnt high anymore when we argued. It was the next day. He just didnt understand why i wouldnt want him to call me. He said that its like being buzzed. He can still have a conversation...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2012): No you're not wrong. I was a pothead for years and had enough sense to understand that it's counter-intuitive to talk to non-smokers while high. They're just not going to relate to your current mental state and frankly you just end up sounding like a dithering fool.
Look he was high so his reaction was probably just based on paranoia just explain to him when he's sober that you don't mind the pot smoking but it's not your thing so just keep you out of it. That he should find others to entertain him when he's high because you're just not on same wavelength to be able to have a proper conversation.
OP it's important you don't back down on this, don't let him throw a tantrum or make a big deal out of it. You're just not interested in talking about meangingless stoned stuff. You just can't relate at all.
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