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writes: Message: 10356.1 (1 of 1) Whose ready for a long story??? Well I found out in Jan of this year that my husband of 8 yrs. ,whom I should say I adore more than life, cheated on me in December. it supposedly only happened once. I am 28, he is 42(41 a the time, and she was 20. I was DEVASTED... Of course I left and all with our 6 yr old son but went back. She went around the town telling everyone that she was pregnant by him and he was leaving me for her, well I gave him the oppurtunity to be with her but that was never his intuition, and I decided to work on my marriage because I could tell he was senser about us. Well she had TWINS on August 19th both weighing 6 pds and is saying they aren't his, which I do not believe they are either, the time frame just don't add up to me. Well, another problem I am having is that we have custody of his 17 yr old daughter and I totally get disrespected by her and actually him when he allows her to do things and never consults me about them. Don't get me wrong, we have beautiful times together, not always bad, but I just have an uneasy feeling cause I am constantly thinking about leaving him. I never thought that until after I found out he cheated. I also just have stuff running through my head all the time. I thought I had made peace with it, but I seenthe female the other day at the store and it all came back to me. I guess i have two questions. Does my marriage sound over or do i need to just quite worrying so much. Also, should i worry about those babies being his.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008): He cheated on you so things are never going to be the same and it won't be easy. You have to decide if this is what you want. Your 28 so you are still young enough to get out and start over without wasting most of your young life on some like this or you can work hard to try to work it out. It will take lots of work and a while before you can trust him. I would make a DNA test one of the conditions. This will put your worries to rest about the babies. His 17 and yourself are only 11 years apart. That is not a big age gap when you think about it. It may be hard for her to accept someone so young with her dad. He needs to sit with her and talk to to her about respecting you as his wife. I am not sure this helps but these are just suggestions.http://memyselfandi79.blogspot.com/Jeanie
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2008): Why doesn't the time frame add up? December to August? That's about the right time for a pregnancy, especially since twins usually come early. I think you need to redo the math on that one..I'd sure worry if I were you. Sorry, but I would. If you think you should leave him, maybe you should. It sure sounds like you have alot of doubts about him (who wouldn't!). I don't think you are worrying too much, I think you are thinking logically and you don't like how are things are adding up! I'm so sorry, I know this must be very painful for you.
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