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writes: Me and my ex broke up about a month ago.I love her dearly and really want to be with her again.Before we dated she was with her ex for 2 years. During this 2 years this guy treated her really badly, he doesn't really care for her and cheated her and they broke up. Then she dated me about 5 months later. I've always loved her and was loyal and faithful to her. Our relationship was wonderful, we would spend time together all the time and loved each other very much. A few weeks after dating her I came to her place and found a picture of her ex in her drawer, i asked her about it and she said she forgot about it and threw it in the bin. I have a feeling that she still thinks of him, but because i love her, i am willing to give her time and thought if i treated her with all the love i feel for her things wil change. After about 3 months into the realationship we moved in together. I helped her moved her things into ourapartment and found the same picture of her ex. She probably picked it out from the bin after i left that day and stil kept it. At this stage i don't know if she still has feelings for that guy or not, but because i love her, i trusted her and keep thinking to myself that she probably had feelings for him when we first dated so shekept the picture, but now she is probably over him. I took the picture and kept it myself and slowly we both forgot about all this... Things were great after we moved in, we would go out and have a nice romantic dinner on weekends, then when we dont feel like going out we would stay home and watch dvd's toegther... However, after 8 months being toegther, she told me she doesn't have feelings with me anymore and broke up with me.She says i don't give her space and don't let her go out with her friends, but that is not true...ever sincewe dated, i have never disagreed to her goingwith with her friends, it's just that she seems to be spending time with me all the time and that she doesn't go out with her friends. I never said she can't go out with them.... she just didn't....Now that we broke up, she moved out and i am alone.ever since we broke up, she is seeing her ex again as friends. He asked her out after we broke up but she refused him. But she is still seeing him quite often 'AS friends'.I really want her back, but i know i need to give her space and time alone so i am not doing anything right now. But after thinking longand hard, i really am not sure if she is over this guy or not, i mean she hid his picture from me during our relationship, and now she is seeing him as friends, even though she knows he is trying to pick her up....I love her alot, and really want her back... What do you guys think about this situation?Does she still have feelings for that guy? even after he cheated on her?
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reader, Toria +, writes (22 October 2006):
 I would say she must have some feelings for him whether they are romantic feelings or just caring about him as he is her past and now friends but there is something that has caused her to hold on to him in her life as a friend.
There are alot of girls out there that love the men that treat them bad, they wouldn't even be able to explain to you why either as most want to be with someone that loves and cares for them unconditionally but always slip into situations with men that don't and when they get with someone that does love them and treat them right they don't always feel 100% into the relationship.
Good luck :o)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2006): ok now everything you have just said needs to be said to this girl. I'd say yes she does have some form of emotions for this guy.
You need to have this conversation with her.
Best of luck.
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