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writes:I have recently started carrying for a guy alot. He has become very special to me. We only have gone out 4 times. Had sex 2 times out of those 4. The last time we had sex is the time he forced his way into my place. By telling me that If i would not let him in he would not see me no more. He made promises and lied to me to get in. I let him in like a fool. We had wonderful sex. Then told me he didnt want to see me for a week. He said he wanted to think. And he wanted me to think. He told me that he did not have a spark for me. Then when he left he text me saying not to go this one bar cause he was going to be with some one else. That hurt. The problem is I am 60 years old, 2 marriages. Lots of dates. And have had no one ever made me feel so whole and like a woman then this guy. He truly hurt me. And to me is a bad boy. I can't seem to get over him. I still text him and he text back with he wants sex and nothing else. Why do some men think they can use women for sex buddies. Charm there way into your life and drop u like a hot potato. This is just cruel. I am no one's sex buddy.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (3 February 2015):
 You had 4 dates and sex already?? Then he leaves and very quickly it's the man's fault? "ALL MEN WANT IS SEX!!!" Part of that is true...but there is another part that women seem to forget...In order for the man who only wants sex to have sex, there has to be a woman who says yes to sex. If not, it's called rape. When did a relationship become so low that "If i would not let him in he would not see me no more", becomes a reason to have sex, or stay with someone?Here is a rule for dating men from a man... Never have sex with a man until sex becomes the reward for a commitment to a long term relationship. NEVER, EVER, have sex as a means to keep a man interested in you, or to make a relationship work.A good man will not use words to get in your pants...he will be willing to wait, and prove him through actions. Women should use words to keep their men interested. He should use actions to keep you interested.Most men you are after just sex will not last 3 months in any relationship that has no sex. That is how you weed out good from bad.If a man starts talking about the future in the first six months...on his own...be careful. Here is another thing...Have you ever heard the terms "We are working on a better relationship." Or "Marriage is hard work." That is the fundamental key in any relationship....WORK. So if the guy has not put in the work into the relationship, why is he rewarded with sex???Blame goes both ways. No one person has ever screwed up a relationship. It takes two people screwing things up for themselves. The bad part is...we don't see it when we are in the middle of it. But after we are out and look back, that is when we see our part in it.Understand your part, Learn from it, and live by the corrections your have made. There will always be challenges in life. It's what makes life fun. :)
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (2 February 2015):
 There are many men like this. Learn from this, and don't be so ready to jump into bed with people. Get to know them really well and find out what they're really like. If they're decent men, they won't mind waiting for sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2015): I am sorry , you are 60 years old ans still wondering about guys???Guys are not very complicated creatures, actually quite primitive and simple. Have you ever heard: ALL THEY WANT IS SEX??Because its very true, this is all they ever want, well, at least the vast majority of them. Your guy is a pig. To tell you after he had sex that he doesn't have attraction for you is just simply rude. To tell you to not come to a certain bar, how dare he, and why would you even listen?You sound like its new to you after 2 marriages and many dates that this what guys do: they tell you anything just to get you in bed. When they have an urge they don't care how beatifull or old you are, their standards of women can go very very low when it comes to their urges. They start thinking with different heads. Of course there are a small percentage of guys who are respectfull of women and act like human being instead of a horny rabbits, but majority of them are like your guy. All we girls have to do is watch out and make smart choices.
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