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writes: Okay My boyfriend is 17 and after over a month that we've been together..he has started to get a little more intimate than before. We make out on a daily bases and it turns me on...but we never passed that. Till now he's been a lil foward which i find very attractive and sexy. Not foward in a way he's pressuring me, cause he's not. He cares about my feelings and i care about him. So lately he's been doing a little more touching than he usually does and he would sit on my lap and while we make out and i'd get really turned on, and he's touched me in places he's never done before.So I'm assuming he wants to take our relationship to the next level. I love him, i enjoy the intimacy and i want to go forward in our relationship, but i just don't know if i'm ready yet. He's 2 years older than me..well one cause ill be 16 this year. And we know how to figure things out if we have an issue or misunderstanding. But i just don't know what to do right now. He's my first real relationship on this side of my sexuality and I have just started being comfortable around him, comfortable in my own skin. I'm just stuck in a bitter sweet cross road. I don't know what to do. Does anyone have any insight on my situation? Any advice is taken. Thank you in advance. Reply to this Question
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (3 March 2010):
 If you're not a 100% sure then don't do anything. You say you're unsure, and that's perfectly fine. So you know where you stand. It seems to me that you're at a cross roads because you know that he wants more and you're not sure if saying no to him will make him love you less or if it will change your relationship.
You said that you guys know how to figure things out if you have issues or misunderstandings. If that's so, I think you should talk to him about this. I remember when I was in your situation. I worried constantly. I knew my then BF wanted to progress our physical relationship but I wasn't too sure yet and I worried about what would happen if I said no. In the end, I talked to him about it and he was very understanding. He even backed off a little and let me initiate the intimacy...i.e. he let me set the pace. It was the best thing he could have done for me.
So if your BF is sensitive to your needs and really cares about you, he will understand where you're coming from. He won't pressure you or make you feel bad for wanting to do things at your own pace.
So I say stop thinking about it and talk to him. I bet that he probably doesn't know what's going through your mind. I'm sure he'll be helpful and understanding.
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