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writes:My bf and I argue a lot. We don't have very good communication. Any time I try to talk about something, he gets upset b/c he thinks I'm looking to start a fight. And he'll tell me to leave him alone. We've been together for 4 yrs and the arguments have gotten more frequent. Mostly b/c we haven't been able to resolve anything b/c he gets so upset, he refuses to talk about it.During one of our fights, he said he wanted to break up. We broke up for 4 days and made up afterward. He said he would work on communicating better. A few days later we got into a fight and he said he didn't know why he wanted to get back with me and we need to break up. Now we're broken up again (this is the 2nd time we've broken up throughout the entire 4 yr relationship.) It's been 4 days. Tell me if you understand what he's telling me b/c I'm confused:He is sending me emails saying he doesn't want to break up BUT he can't take the fighting. He wanted to work on things too BUT look how things are between us. He doesn't like being away from me (but he says he wants to break up all the time). And he loves me very much and will always be there for me. Then he asked me what I think we should do. I know he loves me but do you think he truly wants to be with me? I feel like he is says one positive thing and adds a negative to it. I don't know what to do. I feel like our issues are unsolvable b/c he refuses to acknowledge my point of view and calls me a complainer when I need to talk to him about something.What do you all think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2010): Yeah I think that he may be confused. I'm going to do what you said and give him space and take it from there. Thank you. Its good to know that I'm not the only one going through this. I felt like I was going crazy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): Well I am in the same situation my gf thinks I whine and complain a lot when I try to express my feelings towards her but with her I think she is just confused and doesn't know what she wants maybe you boyfriend is the same just give him time and space if he loves you like he says he'll come back to you willing to resolves the problems
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