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writes:My boyfriend and I practically lived together for a year and a half. He didn't express any unhappiness with me.He moved from Ohio to California for a job and two weeks later broke up with me. He says he still loves me, and he is still attracted to me and he cried the entire time he was breaking up with me. Why did he brake up with me if he still loves me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): I agree with everyone else. Yes I believe he didnt want to hurt you and does love you but I think he believes he doesnt have enough self control to not cheat on you whilst you are in a different place than him.
It hurts but would you rather be cheated on? No you are being spared more heart break than being dumped trust me. It hurts so much worse being cheated on.
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (17 June 2009):
 Young lady,
Long distance relationships rarely if ever work. He is doing you a favor in reality. If he is going from Ohio to California, you have to understand that he is most likely suffering from extreme culture shock. which translates into....."I am seeing all these hot chicks out here that I may want to have sex with and I don't think I can handle it by having a GF in Ohio and cheating on her."
There is an old song from the World War 1 Era with Lyrics that ask
"How will you keep the boy on the farm once he has seen the lights of Gay Paris"?
This is the case. he is doing you a favor and sparing you more torment than you can imagine. Please understand that its nothing you did, but he is realizing he most likely wont be able to stay faithful for very long and is giving you an opportunity to be happy with someone closer.
You are about to be spared a ton of heartache, I know it hurts and its probably what you didn't want to hear at this forum, and I am sorry. I never beat around the bush, as telling somebody something they are looking to hear does a complete disservice to the reason you are here.
But its a recipe for dissapointment and pain if you continue to pine for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2009): Well one guess is that maybe he realized the distance is more than he can handle and instead of sticking with the pain, decided that breaking up now is a good idea...which kinda is but isn't rly my call to decide.
Perhaps he realizes he may cheat on you since he is seeing a different lifestyle in California? Or maybe he already did. I don't know I can't really say, to be honest only he knows the reason. Well rather than having you go through any pain and promises he may not be able to keep he broke up with you now, and yes he still loved you.
Hope this helps some.
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