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writes:in january 2010 i broke up with my ex and it ended on bad terms (he cheated on me with his ex). since then we have both seen other people and got on with our lives since then and have had no contact until recently. he randomly sent me an email to tell me that he'd seen me around on new years eve, i have no recollection of this, as it was new years so i replied generally asking when and where things like that and we've been talking everyday since.he has a current girlfriend at the moment and has a reputation for being a ladies man, which was one of the reasons why i left him after only being together 4 months. i don't see anything wrong with just talking to him as i have moved and don't see him in that way anymore in fact i haven't seen him for a year! but now he wants me to text him instead of just emailing, i would text him but i don't want his girlfriend to think something's going on as it isn't, but i also don't want him to think im going to cheat on him with his girlfriend as he has done this in the past. should i carry on just emailing or should i text?
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reader, Abella  +, writes (8 January 2011):
 It is good that you have moved on. It would not have been easy for you. And the Cheating is such a disrespectful thing to do in a relationship. And have no intention of doing anything to hurt his Gf. You know how horrible, being cheated on, feels like.
His girl friend may see his emails, but not his texting. I would be very wary of this guy.
This guy has a history of cheating. You know it. Texting him back is fraught with the possibility that he is trying to get back with you, behind his GF's back.
If you don't 'play ball' with him, being the 'ladies man' that he is, then I suggest he will quickly find someone else more amenable to text to. It is only a matter of time before his texting will get more flirty. Sorry his Gf may have to go through what you went through. And you can't tell her, as she would not believe you, and you can't stop him from being a 'ladies man', but sooner or later his reputation will mean that girls learn to stay away from him.
What you can do is stay away from him, be that in person, on the phone, on emails, on texting and on facebook.
You did well to be rid of him after just four months - well done that you recognized him for what he is, a cheater.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (8 January 2011):
 If you are going to continue being in contact with him I think you should listen to his request and text. Maybe getting you to text is his way of letting his current girlfriend know that there is nothing going on behind her back.
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