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writes: hi there cupids, can anyone help me with this dilemma. I started this job in the summer of this year where this cute/fit looking guy works, who is a bit older than me, im 20 and he is thirty. i liked him straight away. I thought it was just one way, he diden't know i liked him and i just intended on not telling him and geting over it. But over the months his body language changed torwards me, we were sharing long glances with each other, then smiling. I sometimes catch him looking at me, we share a glance then look away, think he has caught me staring at him a few times too, i can't help it. We have our own secret saying that we whisper to each other across the room. But other co-workers have made a few funny comments which i am not bothered about, but i can see it gets to him, he always look upset after one of the other girls have said something. I really don't want our flirting to stop, but i have got this feeling it is going to. I think about this guy all the time, and im sure he feels the same as me. I have got to find someway of letting him know how i feel, but its so hard, even when we are on our own you feel like the walls have ears.I feel i have found my soulmate and don't want to lose him. HELP.... Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006): Hi, you don't say much here about whether or not you talk to this guy very much, mostly just glancing at each other and whispering a cute saying? I think you may be comfortable right now Fantasizing about this guy which is not based in reality, so how do you know he is your soul mate?
I have lived some 40 years and I have had many soul mates, so I don't really believe in that concept, there are many, many soul mates out there for you if you just keep an open heart...It sounds like you are mostly physically attracted at this stage as the only positive traits you mention are he is cute and fit and he flirts with you..
Well, that is a great start, but I would try just talking to him a lot more to get to know him better to see if you have enough similar interests and values to risk a dating relationship in the work place, because if it goes wrong, it could make working at your job very uncomfortable for you and all of your coworkers who have to watch the fall out.
Also, be sure your company does not have a policy against inter-office dating, some do, some don't.
I think your friend knows you like him and if he is interested in you, he will ask you out as long as he knows you are available and not in a relationship yourself.
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