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writes:Should i carry on with my life, as i now am seeing the better side and have plans to travel and backpack in the Far East.I personally would prefer this as too many bad things have been said, which really hurt, and the kids are always on her side, except her younger daughter 17, who is stuck in the middle and gets grief from younger brothers, but can be a handful. She has said the boys play me off with my wife. Tonight she is at the same guy's house when she was going to speak to me to sort thing's out. Now well after midnight.Should I really do what i want or wait for months for my wife to decide what she wants. Please advise.Thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2007): Sir, no one can give you permission to up and leave your wife/family, simply because you want to backpack in far off countries. You stay and work out a reasonable, fair solution with her. You need to be strong and insist that you and she meet and find some resolve to your marriage problems. You want to make sure all financial commitments and obligations that you had in this marriage are taken care of, before you plan any travel. (Eg: loans, debt you incurred, etc.) There is nothing worse than leaving a woman with children to raise, with 'your' debt. That is unfair to her and her children. If I were you, I'd give her a call and get this all straightened out, first. Divorce is costly and it's time consuming. Get all your problems dealt with before you take off to the far east. I would think that is the morally right thing to do. Only, after you do all this, then perhaps that is the time to to think about doing some travel.
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