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writes:So here I am. I just broke up with my boyfriend. I had written here earlier, a month back, askin for help. And i did get answers to my question, thanks guys! So well, i talked to him about my feelings and how i feel ignored. We had a really long conversation. But he didnt do anything to make me feel better after that. If was as though, we didnt even have the conversation! So what i did was, i dumped him. But it hurts like hell. To not see him anymore, to not talk to him for ages on the phone. But he was not good enough for me. He didnt respect me, he just care for me. I guess I am better off without him. But it hurts. My fingers keeps dialing his number, but i cut it off before it rings. I keep waiting for him to call, and then i remember its over between us. I cry when i listen to the songs which i used to listen to and think of him. Its terrible.Terrible. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): I know how you feel. It's very hard when you love someone,but the fact is you problay made the right choice if he does'nt care how you feel. He will come into your mind a lot, but try to think about something else that makes you happy and also remember the reason you left him. Most of the time only time heals these wounds. Try to forget his number,because you will only start your hurt all over again if he does not respond the way you want him to. Hold on you will feel better with time
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): hi ya i am going thru the exact same thing it is so hard eveywhere i go everything i do reminds me off him.. i like u keep remembering the good times but i have to keep telling myself about the bad things which then puts me in bad form. i also write out mgs on my phone and have sent them to him but then felt stupid for doin it..im 4mths down the line but we have to kids which makes it harder for me. i still miss him some days but i really am better with out him.. just keep in mind that now you and him are not together you WILL meet someone who is really going to love and respect you and ur ex will be a distant memory.. keep strong and keep believing in urself you will be happy again in the mean time enjoy single life.. hope this helps xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): Break-ups are painful even when you are the one initiating them. Losing a partner you have grown accustom to is hard. You are used to that person being there (even though he was emotionally unavailable) You begin to remember the good times more than the bad. Don't listen to songs that remind you of him until you are able to do so without crying. Put away pictures of him. Make fun plans with friends. AND DON'T CALL HIM!
Please believe me when I say, if you call...you will end up right back in the same situation you worked so hard to get out of!
Love can be like an addiction, and the breakup needs to be dealt with the same way you would deal with an addiction...one day at a time!
As the previous poster said...stick to your guns! Keep up your resistance and strength! Don't let your self get caught vulnerable!
Good Luck
Britt
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): you stick by your guns that what you do.
you have done well even getting this far, even though it hurts now, you will be happy that you did this for yourself.
well done!
just stick at it. keep busy. and most importantly no contact.
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