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writes:I met a guy at a club the first weekend of this December -- well, we started dancing and it just went from there. He was really cute and sweet and funny and I felt comfortable with him. Anyways, he said he had to leave and asked if I wanted to come home with him. Long story short, I did, and for the first hour we just hung out with his roommates and it was fun. Then everyone went to bed and so did we, and we started listening to music, which led to making out and surprisingly a lot of conversation too when we were just cuddling. He did push for sex, but I think it was just because we were so caught up in the moment, but I told him it wasn't going to happen because I didn't want this to be a one time thing. And he was really understanding, and it seemed pretty cool with him, he told me he "wasn't one of those guys." So, we cuddled more, and fell asleep. The next morning we made out some more, and I guess I just really felt comfortable with him and so, we did end up having sex. After that though, it became really awkward, and I kind of pushed him away because I immediately assumed I had been used because then he started getting ready for work and I was kind of pushed to the side. ANYWAYS, my phone was broken at the time, but I got his name for facebook, and I requested to be his friend the next day but he never accepted or rejected it, so three days later I sent him a message asking if he ever wanted to hang out again, or if that was just a one time thing for him. He replied rather quickly, saying that we could maybe grab a coffee but he was going away for the holidays (which was true), so it would have to be after. WELL, it's after the holidays (granted, only four days) and I haven't heard anything. So, I need advice on what to do. I know he's pretty shy, and that he's only been with one other girl from what he's told me, so he may not know what to do or say. I want to go out with him again because I feel like there is potential for a relationship here, but I wouldn't be upset if nothing happened. So do I wait for him to get back to me (and if so, how long?), do I send him another message asking what's going on, or do I move on completely?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): Do not contact him again. You have made a bit of the running by contacting him on Facebook etc. So leave it now. He knows you'd like to see him. Shy or not, he will contact you if he really wants to. Wait a week or so, then forget him if you don't hear. A tip: in the throws of passion some men will say anything to get what they want - so wait until you really know if they are into you for the right reasons before getting too intimate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): I think you've given him enough chances to contact you. If he is really interested he will, but I wouldn't hang around or contact him again in the meantime.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (30 December 2010):
 Sounds like he's just not interested. If you messaged him already after the holiday, the ball is in his court. If he really likes you he will find a way to contact you, vacation or not. Sounds like you need to move on.
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