A
male
 ,
*ackalGaz
writes:Without getting into too much detail i posted on cupid recently regarding me and my ex-girlfriend mutually splitting up and hoping to see if the spark comes back over time. My world was turned upside down even more when i found out she was with my friend within 2 weeks of splitting up from a 4yr 7month relationship and its already sexual. I feel like such a fool that she hasn't once taken into account my feelings after such a long and commited relationship, yet i still feel something for her. I have now begun to use hatred to quell the feelings during the days i am not occupying my mind and they are becoming very immature in their new sense of love and security. For example her new boyfriend told me over instant messaging with my ex standing over his shoulder that "oh btw she is shit hot in bed" which would normally hurt but because ive experienced sex with her for 4 years it wasnt anything i was missing. The main problem lies in picturing them having sex together which actually turns me on rather than hurts me as i have my own memorys of us having sex. Is this just an emotional state from all the anger built up inside me or is it something much more psychological ? as it helps to get me through the lonesome days but this is someone that i put so much love in and got so little respect back. Have i let go but not yet realised it?
View related questions:
ex girlfriend, immature, my ex, spark Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2006): Letting go is a process and cannot be rushed, the stages are denial, anger, sadness and acceptance....sometimes you can go back and forth between those stages..until one day you just look at the two of them or at her and sigh and say to yourself OK, I'm done with that....In the meantime, I would have no contact with the two of them, they sound really, really immature to me and it won't last between them if it started out like this, she is merely on the rebound and acting out....get on with your life and stay busy and active in it and you will be fine on the other side....Good Luck to you.
|
