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36-40,
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writes:Dated a fantastic guy for a month or so. We had great chemistry, and everything was going great (didnt have sex). Suddenly he behaved different, and rearranged our dates til other days than we planned and so on. He said it was because of school, but I was never ceratin.. He said he didn't date others (i wanted us to be clear about it even though I might would have accepted it at this early stage) One day he called and said he couldnt meet me the day we had planned, and he didnt know when we could meet again. I got upset, and I was thinking aomething was wrong, but he said it was just because he had a lot to do in school, and that he would call me by the end of the week, He also said that I should live my life and date others if I wanted to(!). He never called. I called him 2 weeks after and we chatted and agreed on seeing eachother after our exams. 20 minutes after I got a text with the message that he didnt want to go further with me, because he wasnt in love, but he would love to hang out. I got upset, and didnt understand. He was the one telling me early that he really liked me, how pretty he found me, how attraceted he found me, told all his friends about me, planning the future and so on.. And anyway - I wasnt in love either, in my opinion it was way to early for that. We agreed on meeting after the exams anyway.I never heard from him. Sent him a text after his exam. And he answered that he wanted to meet me, but after about 2 weeks, because he had another exam and much to do at work. I was sad, and of course I knew that I had been acting "wrong" and too intense texting him. But the only reason was that I wanted to see him again. I felt everything got messed up in the last real conversation we had, and he did have a lot to do in school so I was thinking if I just got to see him one more time, it would be ok between us again (we had great chemistry, both on a friendly basis and we were attracted to eachother). After that 2 weeks I texted him again, and he didnt answer. I thought that I would never see him again so i sent a new text where I said everything that was on my mind. Nothing rude and insulting, but just what I felt about the whole situation. He replied that I was the finest and prettiest and best girl, but he had to prioritize his best friends in a time with a lot to do, and then he said he was dating someone else now. I replied that he could have said earlier that he found someone he liked better before.. He got angry and said I was being rude, and that he acutally wanted us to meet, but after this conversation we could'nt. I said that he should have said all the time the REAL reason, and that I actually thought he had been with others while we were dating as well. Now, of course our bonds are broken, and Its for the best in this situation. But I'm afraid that i blew any chance to reconcile, and do you think he actually would reconcile with me? thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2011): He seem strange, and you seem a lot smarter. Go find someone else. I'm sure he was dating other girls at the same time as you guys dated. He found someone who was willing to have sex with him, he chose her, and didn't want to cut all bonds with you. He's a jerk.. a player!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2011): I think you totally wasted your time with this guy. He was going to keep stringing you along but luckily you got the truth out of him. I don't think you have a chance for reconcilitation but why would you want to reconciliate with a guy like this? He's getting mad at you because he didn't have the balls to tell you the truth. Don't be with someone like that. Find someone better. Hope I helped, if at all.
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