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writes: Hi there,I have a situation that I need help with please.I have been with my boyfriend for over 5 and a half years and we have been living together for over a year now. At first it was great fun and we were both so happy, now it is not like that at all.Firstly we never have sex any more and when we do my partner says he is too tired or when we try he can't stay hard and that has happened on more than one occasion which I have cried about afterwards because it makes me feel unattractive and that I am boring to him now.Secondly I feel my partner is more into going to gigs and festivals with his mates and going to the pub than going out with me and spending time with me. The last time we have gone away together, for example we went to London for a long weekend together was in September and we have gone nowhere since. Monthly he is going up to London, Leeds with his mates to gigs and staying there over night in hostels while I'm at home cleaning the house. I can't remember the last time he had done something romantic and spent quality time with me. I am always suggesting going back to London for a long weekend together and doing things together but he's more interested in making sure he has got the money to go to the latest gigs and festivals with his mates. I've tried talking to him about it but he just gets really angry and so now I just don't say anything. I feel he is taking advantage of me because he does go away so often and he expects to come home to a clean, tidy house and I am sick of it. I'm hoping that if he goes to all these gigs now one day he will get it out of his system and want to spend more time with me.Thirdly, when we are at home together he spends the majority of his time in his guitar room where he spends all night on his computer or listening to music. When I come home from work he is always sitting at the computer his music blaring out (which I am sick of) and every night I go in the room and sit with him. But then I get bored (his music is not my thing) and I go into the living room until ten when I go to bed. He goes to bed hours later so we're not even going to bed together! My question is this. With all the information I have given you do you think the relationship has run its course and should I call it a day? Because this is how I am feeling at the moment. I have tried my best to make this relationship work but I feel I'm the only one trying.Please help me. Thank you
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