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writes:Is it worth waiting for for is it over?my bf of 2 years has broken up with me. i love him to bits and i KNOW that he loves me more than anything too but he says he needs a break and thinks it's for the best. he's been under alot of stress; family ill, new job, and losing alot of weight thru diet pills, and had moved across country to be with me. he has a family history of bipolar, and i never took him seriusly before when he said he thnks he may suffer too! we've been having petty arguements recently but they have been blown into huge rows over nothing! he says he cant take anymore and doesnt see it getting better. he looked like he was having some kind of breakdown and getting so worked up, when we where trying to talk, over nothing!! he sent me a letter saying that he was sorry this had to happen its hurting him as much as hurting me but he needs time, he will be in touch! wot makes it worse is his family have taken his phone so i cant call or he cant call me as they think it will help calm him down. he's taking all his things from the flat and i cant help worry that its now over for good.is it over for good?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): Well, you certainly can't force this issue. If it is meant to be, you'll get back together. I know every person with bipolar disorder is unique, but having had a husband with this and 2 children, I can say maybe you should be glad if it is over. I desperately loved my husband too, and he also left after trying to get through multiple times of episodes that lasted for days and reprocussions that lasted months and years. I can't regret that we ever were together, but you may consider yourself spared from a lot of hurt that can result from this type of relationship. Try to be a friend for him. If he suffers from bipolar (which I'm not sure if you are certain), he could use a friend more than he could ever support you.
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