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writes: Hi. I'm just curious on this one. My first love and I had a basicallly perfect relationship, but I broke it off not knowing what I had. He soon rebounded and has been with her ever since (almost 3 years.) Odds are they will be marrying soon, but has anyone ever been in a similar situation and had them come back to you?Oh and I am okay with me life. I am dating and living and fine. I'm just wondering if this could ever happen or not. I don't need support anymore it was a long time ago. Reply to this Question
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (14 February 2008):
 You make no indication in your question that he shows even the tiniest interest in you. You state that he has been happily involved with another woman for 3 years and will likly be marrying her soon. What gives you the idea that he might spontaneously dump her and come crawling back to you? Unless there is more to the story here, I would say you havent got a chance of him coming back to you.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (14 February 2008):
 I am in a nearly identical situation except he broke it off with me and is the one who is flirting dangerously with me now whilst engaged to someone else. When he flirts he makes me feel so alive in a way I never have since we broke up but I know it's wrong. I really badly wish that he would stop since the situation feels so hopeful when really, it couldn't be more hopeless. I would never steal another woman's fiance so it's really immaterial whether or not he was mine first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): If it was so perfect you wouldn't have had any reason to break it off.
Sometimes looking back into the past makes it look rosier. And the first love always makes a big impact.
Some people do go back to their first love late in life. You see it written about in magazines, but it is rare.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): My first love and I got back together after 30 years appart when his kids were all grown up. We swept by each other and missed an opportunity to reunite 27 years ago. We agree we should have had children together had a life, it makes us a bit sad although we love our children as much as any parent would. If you think you made a mistake you should tell him. You only live once, no dress rehearsal, love like that only comes along once or twice in your life and the alternatives that you will have later will have no comparrisson even though you may love another very much. It is good that you don't need support but you owe it to yourself to check this thing out with him.
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