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writes:I sent my BF a "Good night" text late last night. Till now (mid aft) he still has not responded.We spent the day together yesterday and he gave me a gorgeous crystal bracelet. It was the best day. And I felt we were very close. I texted him to say good night later that night and thanked him again for the beautiful bracelet and told him to sleep well.And no response?Should he have responded?Cause I feel really sad because of it and it's Christmas Eve.It went from the best day yesterday to feeling bad today.He has family over and has had to work a couple of hours this morning but I saw he was active on Facebook earlier this morning. And no return text?Not sure how it changes from one day to the next? A great day to him ignoring me?? That's so hard to handle. :( Or is it just me worrying about nothing?Should he have responded?I don't want to text him again because I have initiated many texts and I don't want to be too clingy if I am over reacting. Do I have something to worry about here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2015): I know what you mean as I am the same. I worry about texts not replied to etc. I think the way the world is now with everyone having smart phones and internet etc puts more pressure on people and an unanswered text can become such a big deal. A lot of my girlfriends feel the same too ie. we all stress over unanswered texts. It sounds as though you had a great time and all is good and you are both relaxed so no need to worry. I have noticed too, that in some cases, as guys get more serious and more relaxed in a relationship they relax about texting (not all but some and others are the opposite - can depend on age too I think). I know couples who are happily in love and sometimes if one is working away or they're apart for a few days they don't even speak or text every day and they are quite relaxed about this. I am sure all is fine so no need to worry.x
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (25 December 2015):
 You have nothing to worry about.
Receiving/sending a "thank you text" is equivalent to a thank you note - neither NEEDS a reply.
And he is HARDLY ignoring you. He is just focused on his family who are visiting.
Chill lady, it's all good.
Merry Christmas!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2015): HiI know the feeling, but all's well I'm quite sure. Different people think differently I've learned. Your boyfriend probably doesn't realise it's so important to you. He may have gone to bed by the time he got your text. And the start of another day is like a clean slate. My boyfriend is exactly the same. Doesn't reply sometimes and doesn't refer to the fact that I sent a text and he didn't reply. If it was me I would say sorry I didn't manage to reply but.....whatever the reason was. It took me a while to realise that he just doesn't think this way. He does initiate the vast majority of the texts though, so if I don't hear back, I leave my phone alone until I do hear. Always hear from him within twelve to twenty four hours and I think it's appreciated that I'm not all over him and I'm not asking 'why didn't you reply' etc. It's just the way he is.I realised the other day that he worries about aspects of the relationship that don't bother me. I knew I wouldn't see him for about five days or so over Christmas and that suited me fine. I wasn't thinking about when I'd see him again, but he was making plans about the next time in quite a worried way as if I was going to be annoyed if I didn't see him soon enough. He was going out of his way to see me as soon as possible and even ended up driving an hour both ways to see me for a short time the next night even though I wasn't worried. But he was!But I have been like you over texts that he hasn't replied to. Gutted and confused. But now I realise we don't all attribute the same importance to the same thing, it's all fine. He probably read the text, thought that's nice and I'll get back to her when I can. Christmas is a time when things are different, as you know. Please don't worry, there's absolutely no reason to think anything's wrong :)
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reader, Ciar +, writes (25 December 2015):
 Nope. Nothing to worry about here. It would have been nice if he'd responded, certainly polite, but he may have been busy with preparations and only signed in to his pc without having his cell phone nearby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2015): He's probably busy with his family. Don't text him anymore. Let him get back to you.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (25 December 2015):
 Yes, this is you worrying about nothing. I don't know why he hasn't responded but after him investing so much time in you, and going out of the way on a bracelet... Etc. and you are souring over a response to a "good night" text?! Nor do you want to go any further with this, not on him, lest you want to risk spoiling the great time you both had, which is what you should be reminiscing over rather then ruminating and building up negative emotions over a text.
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