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writes:I fell in love with a guy a while back who became like my best friend too we came part of each other i got pregnant and we both panicked coz im achieved my dream of modelling and he was out of work so we decided on abortion but its illegal in our country so we had it done illegally buy a dodgy doctor who turned out to be nothing more than a drug dealer i ended up in bed for 6 weeks loosing serious amounts of blood loosing two ribs loosing my chance to ever havekids and was brought to a hospital where i was given 10 days to live but i fought it to the end and proudof myself for doing so. me and my guy got back on track but what i forgot to say is hes a 22yr old whos life is ruled by his mam so when i was better she forced him to leave me or loose his whole family we cried as we spent our last night together. my heart broke after everything id been through and lost he couldnt just stick by me. so i wanted to hurt him to make myself feel better so i slept wit his best best friend the night after we broke up i never would of told him i slep wit him it was to ease my pain but the condom split but was ok coz i cant have kids WRONG!!! im now pregnant wit his friends baby chances are it wont survive but his friend wants me to have a backstreet abortion again but i wil die if i do it again i barely made it last time. but if this baby survives i will loose the love of my life FOREVER hel never forgive me for sleepin wit his friend. so im stuck wit coming clean to my ex and loosing him or gettin this abortion done and dying. please help me ive been through enough i cant take anymore i really cant......help me help me please someone give me the right answer....
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2008): if you really dont want to have this baby then why dont you go over to the UK and get an abortion there? i dont really know much about it but under no circumstance could you get it done illegally again, i do agree with what every1 else has said the baby is the important thing here not the boyfriend or his friend! so think about it if your saying you cant have kids maybe this is your one chance... just think about it carefully and dont let your feelings for your boyfriend make you act irrationally.
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reader, Rhandy  +, writes (13 December 2008):
 will for me i suggest to save the baby and accept the reality, meaning you need to tell your BF about what happen, and tell him the reason why you decide to sleep with your bestfriend rather than not to tell him the truth however you must also considered the consequences that he might not accept u. just tell him freely so that you will not suffer, if he accepts it he really love you but if not there someone meant for you.. tell the truth and live freely,.. hope it helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): please don't have a backstreet abortion. my best friend was 14 when she got pregnant when she was 13 and had her baby six months ago.she got pregnant again just six weeks after having her baby. she had a backstreet abortion and she was dead within 2 days. that was only 3 weeks ago and it still hurts. your man will hurt if he loses you. just come clean. he can bring it up as his own if his mate don't wanna be a daddy. i'm 14 and i'm not bringing up her baby cos she don't have no family. everytime her little boy now 1 asks where his mummy is i don't know what to say.that little boy has been left wihtout a mummy. don't let your man be left without a life without you. this is 100% true
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2008): I understand the difficult situation you are in, but you have had sex with somebody for the wrong reasons. You now have to think of this unborn child and your health. It is not about your ex or the father of the baby. They are far less important. Have you been to a doctor? What is his prognosis about the pregnancy and the fetus?
You should not do anything that is putting your life at risk. Get medical opinion as soon as possible and then allow your doctor to advice you or to refer you to a professional counselor. This site cannot give you advice on your situation with your medical record and history it will be to risky.
Get to a doctor and get professional help. Take care of your health and stop worrying about the guys.
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