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writes:Hi, I have a quick question, mainly for the guys out there. If you were a college senior, would you date a freshman? I'm asking this because the guy I like is going after a girl who is a senior like him. The thing is she looks a lot like me, not to be conceited but I would say I'm definitely the prettier version. I don't understand why he's not picking me over her when I'm the one more interested in him anyway. I'm wondering if it is just the fact that she's the same age as him. When is it that guys go for the younger girls? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, I know that of course there's more to choosing a girlfriend than prettiness. I felt we would be a better match because I'm a lot more like him than she is. She's much more of the wild type, heavy drinker, etc. However, it's not my decision unfortunately. Today I'm in a better place. I just have to keep hanging around and being his friend and if the time's right sometime, we'll get our chance to go out. I just feel lucky to have met him in the first place. Of course, if anyone has any advice on how to get him to go more in the direction of picking me as a girlfriend, then that would be appreciated as well!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 February 2013):
 It may be that her insides are different than your insides and they match better...
It's really not about who's prettier.... that's for when a guy wants eye candy on his arm to impress others... when he wants to find someone to really have a relationship with he is more concerned with if the insides of her match his insides.
I never found folks dating by what "grade" in school they were....
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (19 February 2013):
 My memories of that age indicate that insecure guys who need to be dominate in a relationship, dated younger girls. Mature guys who were ready to make commitments dated their intellectual equals.
Now I may be just padding my ego, I always dated girls close to my age. I flirted with girls older than me, and ignored girls younger than me. But the guys I knew who were dating younger girls all made rude comments, outside of their girlfriends hearing, about how they controlled the relationship.
One other thing that indicates to me that he is a secure strong personality, is that he chooses to go after the girl he is more interested in, rather than the girl who is more interested in him. Personally I would have chosen the other way, I've never been one to choose an uphill battle.
I'm sorry that you came off as second place this time. Unrequited love is painful for you. I hope that I've given you some help in understanding his choice. CMMP points out Very nicely that when making the final decision of a life mate compatibility is more important than prettiness. I don't think that age is the only factor in his decision. Remember it's not a contest to see which girl is best. It's a choice to see which girl fits his needs best.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (19 February 2013):
It's not a deal breaker but for the most part he has more in common with her. Not to mention she's above the drinking age and they'll be able to move on with their lives while you have 3 more years of school left.
There is more to this than who's prettiest, btw.
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