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anonymous
writes:Guys, what do you look for in a girl? This includes personality and looks. I know everyone is different. Also do u guys believe that when a guy is a player he can change once he meets that right girl??
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2012): Players are just like gamblers or drinkers or cheaters or crooks. They CAN change, it's possible. But expecting one to change on your watch is kidding yourself.
I'll tell you something else: For a serious relationship, the last thing I want is a girl who has been with players.
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reader, xgod +, writes (19 April 2012):
 Honestly, I will tell you the truth, as mean or harsh as it may sound.
While some men like women no matter what they look like, and some men seem to prefer women who have a lot of "jiggle and bounce" I am not one of those guys.
I like women who are pleasing to the eye. If I do not see them as beautiful, I am not interested. For me, certainly looks come first. If a woman is not attractive, how would I ever be able to be with her for a prolonged period of time?
Yes, some people may think that is wrong or that i am sexist or discriminatory. If they think that, I'm fine with it. But it's true that many men have become accustomed to a certain level of female fitness and beauty.
How I personally appraise a potential date or mate:
1. I look at her overall figure. If I am turned on, I go to step 2. If not, then I look away. Cellulite and excessive proportions (big booty or huge breasts) are unattractive to me.
2. I check out her hair. Yes, I am hair prejudice. Laugh if you must, but - for me - if a woman has short hair or an awful haircut / hair style, it frankly disgusts me. I love women with long hair (below their shoulder as long as their ankles even - and I have met a few with hair that long).
3. I look into her eyes and appraise her overall face. If this is potentially the face of the woman I may eventually marry/make babies with, then she must be beautiful in my eyes. Quirky is also beautiful, but butter faces and weird moles or kooky features just do not work for me. Sorry.
4. After appraising the overall figure, the hair, and the face, I look at her behind and her breasts. Note that all of this can happen in a matter of 5 seconds or less. If I am turned on by her proportions, I may consider approaching her or smiling if I catch her eye.
5. There is also something to be said about her odor. As I am allergic to cigarettes and thoroughly disgusted by perfumes, if she smells of cigarettes or perfume, it pretty much will make me totally disgusted and I'll begin to pity the waste of such beauty with such disgusting odors or habits.
6. Her voice should be something I can enjoy. Some women are unfortunate enough to have voices that make me climb the walls just to get away from the sound. Nasal, whiny, valley-girl, Paris-Hilton-wannabes can just walk. 'Nuff said.
7. After all of this, I want to get to know the body chemistry and personality of the woman I am pleased to look at/smell/hear. Personality is based on upbringing, parental discipline, and habits. A major put-off for many men is a gold-digger or a woman who is focused on brand-name apparel and accessories. HINT: Most men could care less about the brand, as long as it looks good and feels comfortable. This is easily applicable to relationships as well.
So, after all is said and done or unsaid and undone, I am a picky person. You have to look hot, be sexy, have great hair, a beautiful face, and a hot body. If your voice is pleasing and your personality fits, and the chemistry bubbles, I'll zoom in on you and make the approach.
Yet, some men like big booties or big breasts or short hair. it's partially how they were raised and in what societal norm they grew up.
As far as a man being a player, it's more about a man needing to fulfill the primal animal urge of "spread the seed, kill the weed" where the seed is making the bed bounce with as many ladies as we can successfully lure into the bedroom and the weed is any competing male who could potentially get with said female before we can.
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